Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, sex was physical, even in marriage. As I got older, sex become a way to connect through physical intimacy. Probably not coincidentally, the amount of foreplay went from about 2.5 minutes to sometimes way over an hour. Now, foreplay is the best part of sex. I have zero interest in emotionless sex. If I'm looking for that, there are always two hands available that can push all the right buttons. But everyone's different.

How old are you? Thanks.

49 these days. I guess it was about 40 (?) when things really began to change in this regard. We never really talked about it (that's another idiotic thing young couples don't do....), it just started evolving that way. For me, as this happened, the sex went from very ho-hum to incredible. Frequency never changed (3x / week maybe, once more or less), but the injection (pun intended) of emotionality and intimacy made it night and day.

I LOVE this....I am divorced, 34 and dating a man now who is 48, we have been together for 3 years and the sex is exactly as you describe. I have only ever been with young men and I have always felt to some degree I was viewed as a way to just get off. Now the experience is so much better than I could have ever imagined. The best sex is the sex with the emotions. I don't think people understand this until they experience a real emotional connection with another in the bedroom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

I have always had a very high T level, has dropped into the mid 700's over the past 5 years, and I call BS on the above as well.

Can a DW chime in? I like to have sex with my DH because a) I love him, b) he is likable and my best friend, c) I am attracted to him and d) I have needs. When I am having sex with him I just want to give and receive pleasure. I am not thinking of love or emotions. When he brings me my morning cup of coffee in bed? That is an emotional and loving experience!

When her mouth and fingers are playing a symphony.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, sex was physical, even in marriage. As I got older, sex become a way to connect through physical intimacy. Probably not coincidentally, the amount of foreplay went from about 2.5 minutes to sometimes way over an hour. Now, foreplay is the best part of sex. I have zero interest in emotionless sex. If I'm looking for that, there are always two hands available that can push all the right buttons. But everyone's different.

How old are you? Thanks.

49 these days. I guess it was about 40 (?) when things really began to change in this regard. We never really talked about it (that's another idiotic thing young couples don't do....), it just started evolving that way. For me, as this happened, the sex went from very ho-hum to incredible. Frequency never changed (3x / week maybe, once more or less), but the injection (pun intended) of emotionality and intimacy made it night and day.

Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, sex was physical, even in marriage. As I got older, sex become a way to connect through physical intimacy. Probably not coincidentally, the amount of foreplay went from about 2.5 minutes to sometimes way over an hour. Now, foreplay is the best part of sex. I have zero interest in emotionless sex. If I'm looking for that, there are always two hands available that can push all the right buttons. But everyone's different.

How old are you? Thanks.

When I was younger, sex was physical, even in marriage. As I got older, sex become a way to connect through physical intimacy. Probably not coincidentally, the amount of foreplay went from about 2.5 minutes to sometimes way over an hour. Now, foreplay is the best part of sex. I have zero interest in emotionless sex. If I'm looking for that, there are always two hands available that can push all the right buttons. But everyone's different.

Anonymous wrote:Men are hard on the outside, soft on the inside. Women are the opposite.

Yep.

Men are hard on the outside, soft on the inside. Women are the opposite.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

Don't fret - men are THE biggest babies about so many things. If their relationship ends, if things aren't going their way, if you don't say hello and goodbye in a sweet way. Hell, I basically have to cuddle my big muscular DH to sleep at night or he's out of sorts. Men act like they're all detached and cool but that's just a ruse.

And god - when they marry you the rough sex goes away because they care about you. Sigh...

Sounds like you're generalizing based on one man.

I dated a lot. I have many brothers. I have sons. I just don't believe this whole men are unfeeling sex obsessed beings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

Don't fret - men are THE biggest babies about so many things. If their relationship ends, if things aren't going their way, if you don't say hello and goodbye in a sweet way. Hell, I basically have to cuddle my big muscular DH to sleep at night or he's out of sorts. Men act like they're all detached and cool but that's just a ruse.

And god - when they marry you the rough sex goes away because they care about you. Sigh...

Sounds like you're generalizing based on one man.

Also, projecting her female experiences onto the entire male gender.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

Don't fret - men are THE biggest babies about so many things. If their relationship ends, if things aren't going their way, if you don't say hello and goodbye in a sweet way. Hell, I basically have to cuddle my big muscular DH to sleep at night or he's out of sorts. Men act like they're all detached and cool but that's just a ruse.

And god - when they marry you the rough sex goes away because they care about you. Sigh...

Sounds like you're generalizing based on one man.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

Don't fret - men are THE biggest babies about so many things. If their relationship ends, if things aren't going their way, if you don't say hello and goodbye in a sweet way. Hell, I basically have to cuddle my big muscular DH to sleep at night or he's out of sorts. Men act like they're all detached and cool but that's just a ruse.

And god - when they marry you the rough sex goes away because they care about you. Sigh...

And if things aren't going his way - work is stressful, home life is a freak show - the sex goes away and it's not coming back until things are right.
Sigh...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.

Don't fret - men are THE biggest babies about so many things. If their relationship ends, if things aren't going their way, if you don't say hello and goodbye in a sweet way. Hell, I basically have to cuddle my big muscular DH to sleep at night or he's out of sorts. Men act like they're all detached and cool but that's just a ruse.

And god - when they marry you the rough sex goes away because they care about you. Sigh...

Anonymous wrote:The more testosterone you have , the less emotion from sex. Sex is satisfaction . Love is the rest of the time .

This is total BS. Physical satisfaction, emotions, love...it's all connected.