This does not fly in my marriage, we have a "just pee" rule.

Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. If you can't live with his poop or smell of poop in the bathroom, bed or car there's something wrong with your relationship.

Ridiculous.

No one is wrong. Feeling either way if fine. But if you have conflicting views, you've got to be respectful and understanding of the other's opinion about it.

Personally I think it's no big deal and I really don't care if my loved one needs to take a dump nearby while I showering.

That said, if you do, I think it's reasonable to ask that unless it's an emergency, he not do it. When you've got to go, you gots to go. It's too much to ask that if you have access to a single toilet, he "hold" it if it's truly an emergency.

That said, he can give you warning and ask you to step out if that's what you'd prefer.

There's a great book you should get, it's called "Everybody Poops" LOL

I wouldn't have an issue with it. There's only 1 bathroom, and when you need to go, you need to go.

You were wrong. If you can't live with his poop or smell of poop in the bathroom, bed or car there's something wrong with your relationship.

1st world problems... am I right?

It's really not that big of a deal, that's what courtesy flushes are for.

It's part of life. Through the trenches of raising a family, illnesses, life in general, she has seen me at my worst as I her. From holding her hair back while she was ill to cleaning the bed after the unexpected. It is life.

What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Same in relationships.

There are much worse things in life. At least you're not on a buddy system while they go do the dooty to ensure they're not eaten by the lions, tigers, bears... hogs.

I would've given him privacy but I wouldn't be angry about it.

He asked. You said no. I don't get the outrage. If he tried to sneak in and stealth poo in the bathroom, or worse, say he wanted to shower with me and then poo, I'd be more irritated. But delaying my shower by a few minutes so he can have the bathroom for necessary functions? No big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Totally gross out. Gotta go after you said use shower?-then go to lobby loo. I been married along time and this was never OK and never will be.

+1 - unless this is explosive diarrhea there is no reason he couldn't either hold it until you were out the shower, use the hotel lobby bathroom, or let you know BEFORE you went in the shower that he really had to go and needed the bathroom first. Personally my DH would have gone to the lobby bathroom.

Wanted to add, you never know how flushing could impact the water pressure or temperature in the shower at least at hom so even more reason not to do that in the same bathroom as a person showering - you may need to wait to flush!

Anonymous wrote:Totally gross out. Gotta go after you said use shower?-then go to lobby loo. I been married along time and this was never OK and never will be.

+1 - unless this is explosive diarrhea there is no reason he couldn't either hold it until you were out the shower, use the hotel lobby bathroom, or let you know BEFORE you went in the shower that he really had to go and needed the bathroom first. Personally my DH would have gone to the lobby bathroom.

Anonymous wrote:I would be totally grossed out.

+1
Romance continues into marriage and stuff like that kills it reliably and forever. Awful.

That's gross. I haven't seen anyone over the age 6 poop. I've had three long term live in relationships/marriages and nobody has ever even suggested that. Peeing is fine imo.

Seriously? He asked you to go shower first and then a minute later absolutely needed to poop? I guess I am in the minority here... While my DH and I hang out in the bathroom often (sometimes showering together, other times one brushes teeth while the other showers, etc.) we both like our privacy on the toilet. Of course if he ever needed help or there was some valid reason I would need to witness his going to the bathroom, I would have no issue with it; however, given the context, I don't think your reaction is strange at all. Perhaps your husband's family was different and he just didn't think it was a big deal, but now that he knows, hopefully it won't happen again.

I do not let DH see me do anything that involves a toilet, and do not want to see him do anything that involves a toilet.

DH would have thrown on pants and gone to find a public bathroom. It's a HOTEL. There are always bathrooms on the lobby level.

Totally gross out. Gotta go after you said use shower?-then go to lobby loo. I been married along time and this was never OK and never will be.