Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Complement, not match means she shouldn't traipse down the aisle in a strapless polyester get-up from Davids Bridal. It doesn't mean she can't wear a tasteful, age-appropriate gown in the same color as the bridesmaids.

Frankly, you are starting to sound a little bridezilla-like. I would maybe think about counseling after the wedding, so that you are aware of your own self-absorbed tendencies, and can choose to behave differently.

Anonymous wrote:Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Rules like this are for the small-minded and insecure. Rise above.

Anonymous wrote:I got married at Xmas time. My mother told my future MIL that any color dress would be fine in the pix except bright red. My MIL wore a beautiful red dress and looked fabulous. My narcissistic mother NEVER got over it. It didn't matter to me one iota what family members wore.

This was rude of your MIL. Asking family to avoid one color is not a big imposition.

You also seem to take a lot of joy in your MIL being passive aggressive and rude towards your mom. I think you're the narcissist in your story. I actually feel sorry for your mom.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Yes, we know Op. We're on your side, there's 2 pages of that already.

What you're not understanding is that we're telling you to ignore, move on, and not waste any more energy on it.

I got married at Xmas time. My mother told my future MIL that any color dress would be fine in the pix except bright red. My MIL wore a beautiful red dress and looked fabulous. My narcissistic mother NEVER got over it. It didn't matter to me one iota what family members wore.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Got it: You care more about being right than just letting this go and being happy.

They should wear whatever they feel best in. Don't be a narcissist bridezilla.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Not the hill to die on. Quit micromanaging

Anonymous wrote:Only virgins wear white your mom had sex to make you

I'll bet op is wearing white and guarantee she's no virgin

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Got it: You care more about being right than just letting this go and being happy.

+1

Just LET IT GO. No one will mistake her for you. I have been to many weddings where the mom of the bride has on a white suit/dress. No one cares but you. If you just let this go, in a few years this will be a blip on the radar. This is not worth wasting energy on or fighting about.

Anonymous wrote:My mom wore a cream colored lace dress. It could've been a wedding dress for a second wedding. I was oblivious. I wonder what others thought. No one ever said anything.

They probably didn't care since all eyes were on you, the bride!

No one mistakes the mother of the bride or a bridesmaid for the bride so I wouldn't let it get to you, OP. My mom wouldn't let me make suggestions either, so I just let it go. Her dress was the same color as DH's mother's (the bridesmaids' color) but it all looked beautiful in the photos.

well, my step mom wore a long white dress to my reception. there was snickering.

My mom wore a cream colored lace dress. It could've been a wedding dress for a second wedding. I was oblivious. I wonder what others thought. No one ever said anything.

My mom insisted on wearing champagne (cream). Whatever. She also insisted on wearing an outfit that did not fit the season so I knew she would be uncomfortable and I asked her point blank to think about the weather at the time of the wedding. Again, whatever. Just not a battle I cared to fight.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Got it: You care more about being right than just letting this go and being happy.