Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'5 and 115 pounds. 50 years old. I eat whatever I want and I eat a ton. But I work out hard every day. If I didn't work out I would be overweight. I am not willing to ever be overweight. And I love to eat. So, I have to exercise. Thankfully, I enjoy working out most of the time.
I'm also 50, 5'4" and about 110. I have no idea how many calories I consume every day, but I feel like I eat a lot, I have a daily beer or glass of wine, and I never skip dessert. I am vegetarian, so I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables and have a relatively healthy diet overall, aside from the desserts and alcohol. I'm also fortunate to have inherited thin genes. I walk most places, including to work, and have relatively heavy workouts that I love (running, biking, or a team sport) 4 days/week.
Good luck, OP. I agree that your focus shouldn't be on calories but on eating an overall healthy diet and ramping up the exercise.