Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

GOOD FOR YOU! THAT WAS KARMA. Your ex sounds like an awful person.

Am I the only one who thinks the exhusband sounds much worse than the exwife? Why wouldn't he use at least a little of that money to fix up the house? Shows that he was never really fully committed to the marriage, if you ask me.

And what is really low.. who GLOATS about the fact that a daughter won't speak to her mother? A good father will try to build understanding between his children and their mother. Not revel in the destruction of their relationship. Using the children against an ex-spouse is about as low as it gets, parenting-wise.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

GOOD FOR YOU! THAT WAS KARMA. Your ex sounds like an awful person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

Did your exW ever express remorse or want to get back together? I remember her saying "I screwed up" in the original post.

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

Anonymous wrote:When I lived in NYC, I participated on a music-related message board for many years. Since we were all based in NYC/LI/NJ, we would have meet-ups for happy hour and music shows.

Two of the regular posters on the message board got into heated arguments that usually devolved into personal insults. The female poster, K, was quite funny and very popular with the in-crowd on the board. The male poster, S, was a bit quirky/on-the-spectrum and not as popular. Ironically, both of them attended the same Ivy League university, though I'm not sure they knew each other from there. K would mercilessly lay into S. I believe she may have even humiliated him in-person a number of times.

After a while, S devised a plot to turn K's message board screen name (which included her real-life first name) into a street art meme. He began plastering the city with stickers of "STFU [K's screenname]" and taking photos, then uploading them to the message board. It caused quite a scandal as many message board posters thought it was hilarious, while others (mostly female) thought it was a form of harassment. He began a blog that documented the proliferation of his meme, giving out thousands of stickers to random strangers. He started getting photos of the sticker in random cities all over the world.

He made hundreds of t-shirts with the "STFU [K's screenname]" logo printed on them and gave them out to a ton of NY'ers. K would be out at a bar or on the subway and see a random person with the "STUF [K's screenname]" t-shirt. It completely pissed her off.

That all happened over 10 years ago. The message board shut down probably 5 years ago. S is still keeping up his art project and has successfully showed branded objects and photos with the "STFU [K's screenname]" logo at art gallery shows. He's sold tens of thousands of dollars woth of "STFU [K's screenname]" merchandise. I think he even trademarked K's screen name.

That is the most epic trolling I've ever seen in my life. The gag has been going on for close to 15 years.

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

Wow, I remember this thread. That was quite the saga.

Anonymous wrote:My wife left me, and complained on DCUM about the financial offer I gave

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/598867.page

Someone I know showed me the thread, thinking it sounded like my situation. Yeah...it was. I joined in on page 7.

In the end, in January, I filed for divorce. For cause -- proved adultery. She would not agree to anything short of 1/2 my (inherited & grown money). Because of the thread, which was admitted into evidence, ex ended up with very little. The judge yelled at her -- told her if she could, she would give me all the marital assets. Instead, she got no alimony, 1/2 401k (430K), and I bought her out of her half of the house. Plus, because DD is living with me, ex has to pay child support -- $500/month. (has not happened yet)

I have a house that is paid for, 4.8 mil in assets (was 4 in Dec, but market did well).

She is living in a crappy apartment, and was also dumped by the ex. Oh, DD will not speak to her right now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:XDH, who is a horrible person in many ways, got 1/2 of my pension in the divorce proceedings because that's standard. XDH wants to retire at 56 on his government pension. We just had our court hearing and should be getting the papers soon. I can wait to email him "just trying to be helpful here, but you need to know, I can't claim my pension until I'm 65 under my plan's rules, so if you try to retire early you'll be giving me half of your pension for many years."

If he'd been a nicer person I'd be more sympathetic....

A coworkers ex-wife demanded half of his (rather meager) 401k when she divorced him (she was leaving him for her boyfriend) but didn't think her much larger pension should be counted. He was willing to let her walk away with her pension intact but she wanted his money so he got hers.

I love this one.

I know. But where was her lawyer? Not that PP or the coworker would necessarily know, but it seems like idiocy to go forward with the ex-wife's claims based on what usually happens to pensions in divorce cases.