Wow.

Sounds like a ton of homework here.

Tons of filtering and sorting out.

But as they say....Nothing good in life ever comes easy.

So true....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I haven't tried online dating but may do so in the future. How would a woman convey that she's not trying to hook up, that she's looking for a relationship. Do you just say it in your profile?

Say it. There are a lot of men also looking for a relationship.

Thanks!

Anonymous wrote:I'm new to this online dating thing too. Should OP be somewhere else if she's looking for a longer-term relationship, like OK Cupid or Bumble?

I've done OKC and Match. No real difference. Match gives a much bigger data base, but costs. OKC is free, but can be a little bit limiting numerically. The way people deal with it, though, is pretty much identical.

I actually met my husband on Match. I ended a long term relationship and moved to a new city and didn't know anybody. You have to have the right mindset 90 percent of the people you'll get responses from you'll have no real interest in. It's a numbers game don't wait for people to seek you out, you seek them out (best advice I can give) (gave this advice to my sister-who ended up meeting her husband, and a work colleague-who ended up meeting her husband as well. It takes time and effort to go through all the profiles. I would set aside a little time each week to go through potential guys. You'll get more reactions from writing than winking. I was on for about 3 months. I dated the first guy I met for a month, then after that fizzled I had about 1-2 dates a week, only a few went beyond the first date, after 3 months I met my husband the rest is history! We've been together 10 years and have 2 daughters