I've found that living well really is the best revenge.

After the initial shock and despair, I quickly got down to the business of making my life more awesome on several fronts. I took a multidisciplinary approach (brain, body, spirit). I cut out the human dead weight in my life and focused much more intently on the pared-down lineup of people I genuinely love. Kind of the Marie Kondo approach to people.

Here's what I didn't do: run out and replace Mr. Heartbreak with the closest warm body in order to "forget." For me, at least, to have done that in the immediate aftermath would've disrespected myself. I needed to heal my soul first, and blindly banging someone for distraction would interfere with that.

A relationship gone sour? A marriage that crashed and burned? A long held dream that didn't work out? Who hasn't experienced heartbreak or loss? Sometimes I feel as if I can't handle another loss. Therapy, philosophy, religion. A helpful book is 'Feeling Good', which utilizes cognative behavioral therapy. I did CBT decades ago and it has helped, but there have been losses that still hurt. Be gentle with yourself and whatever it is, give yourself time to heal.

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Anonymous wrote:Getting close to Christ .

Necrophelia?

He's missing from the inexplicable and unexplainable shroud of Turin !

Anonymous wrote:Getting close to Christ .

Necrophelia?

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Anonymous wrote:


Weed.

like.. to garden?

LOL. No, but that could work...

Plan a trip, either solo or with friends. It will give you something to look forward to.

Know that you will survive this and you will be happy again.

Anonymous wrote:Exercise, get outside, time with friends and family. And wine.

The above, plus sleep, reading, and letting yourself be alone or taking time away from the world if you can afford it.

New poster here. Had a blowout with my boyfriend last night, I'm pretty sure the relationship is done now. What he did is pretty unfixable. I moved in two days ago, too. So it's wonderful timing.
I am babysitting all day, and going right to my Moms to spend the night (she's conveniently away for ten days so I have a place to escape to). I didn't sleep last night, so I'm hoping I can just relax and go to bed early tonight. Who knows what will happen.

Anonymous wrote:Grieve, accept, detach, and move on.

Find someone to have sex with, first. It makes the rest easier.

Anonymous wrote:How to deal with it: get up in the morning, take a shower, put on foot in front of the other, go to work, take care of business. At least go through the motions of life and let time do its job. Real heartbreak you are never truly over as long as you can remember the person.

+1. It's been 2 years and I'm just starting to get over him.

Lots of good advice on this thread. I had also previously learned from DCUM that Tylenol can actually help manage the pain of a broken heart.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20548058

It'd definitely worth a try, IMO, especially to help get through those first very rough days.

I get up and go to work and take care of my responsibilities.

- Men

Grieve, accept, detach, and move on.

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Weed.

like.. to garden?

Anonymous wrote:Anti-depressants worked for me.

Numbed all of my emotional pain pronto.

Get rid of a temporary problem with a gigantic permanent problem
Yep. peeerfect trade of. awesome.