Anonymous
Post 03/22/2017 08:47     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:Life is good. Kids are adjusting. I tried everything to save my marriage but looking back, I wish I would have just ended it.
Staying with a cheater is soul sucking. Obviously, some things are still difficult but the freedom I feel is great.

I received a lot of positive support so thank you very much.






+100000000
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2017 08:46     Subject: Re:Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
OP your kids will be fine. Providing a stable home with happiness will nurture strong kids. Sadly he bailed out on them and you. As they get older they will decide what if any relationship they want with him.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2017 08:34     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for you and I wish all the best to you and your kids!

I know quite a few individuals who were in situations like your children and they turned out to be amazing adults in healthy marriages/relationships.


I read a study that concluded that kids of highly contentious divorces actually went on to have more successful marriages than kids of "amicable" divorces. They concluded this was the case because, in dramatically black/white situations, the kids grew up to blame the divorce on the poor character of one or both parents. In amicable divorces, the kids ended up more confused and commitment-phobic as adults because they blamed the institution of marriage for the failure, rather than the people involved.


I have heard this many times and it makes sense. I believe OP's kids know the situation so I am sure they blame it on the poor character of the father.


I'm 20:17 and I agree, that's why I posted it.


I don't agree - in fact, I think it's a bunch of horse-s*** made up by some quasi-religious types - the "character" line (a word I never seem to see in real psych papers) is kind of a giveaway. However, I've got an open mind - I'd love to see a reference to the study, can you point it out to me?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2017 08:16     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Life is good. Kids are adjusting. I tried everything to save my marriage but looking back, I wish I would have just ended it.
Staying with a cheater is soul sucking. Obviously, some things are still difficult but the freedom I feel is great.

I received a lot of positive support so thank you very much.





Good for you OP, wishing you and your children the best.

Don't worry, Karma is a bitch.


Yes OP should move on, not have any contact with ex cheater. A good friend's husband left her after many years of marriage for the secretary. Talk about Karma, not too long after he married her they died in a crash.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 22:47     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I really enjoy updates like this.


Me too! Whatever happened with the baby?


I honestly am not sure. They are still married and living a few miles from my house. As far as I know, my ex husband does not see the child. He will be three in May. In Michigan, when the child turns 3, no lawsuits can ever be filed as to paternity.

I don't ask. My kids never ask. Not my monkeys not my circus anymore.


So you changed your mind about stealing her child? Awesome.


OP here. Yep. Changed my mind. Once again "Not my monkeys, not my circus". Changed my mind about staying with a lying cheating bastard as well but luckily, life goes on.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 22:43     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I really enjoy updates like this.


Me too! Whatever happened with the baby?


I honestly am not sure. They are still married and living a few miles from my house. As far as I know, my ex husband does not see the child. He will be three in May. In Michigan, when the child turns 3, no lawsuits can ever be filed as to paternity.

I don't ask. My kids never ask. Not my monkeys not my circus anymore.


So you changed your mind about stealing her child? Awesome.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 22:07     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
I'm glad you're happy, OP.

Hopefully your daughter can work through what she needs to.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 21:05     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for you and I wish all the best to you and your kids!

I know quite a few individuals who were in situations like your children and they turned out to be amazing adults in healthy marriages/relationships.


I read a study that concluded that kids of highly contentious divorces actually went on to have more successful marriages than kids of "amicable" divorces. They concluded this was the case because, in dramatically black/white situations, the kids grew up to blame the divorce on the poor character of one or both parents. In amicable divorces, the kids ended up more confused and commitment-phobic as adults because they blamed the institution of marriage for the failure, rather than the people involved.


I have heard this many times and it makes sense. I believe OP's kids know the situation so I am sure they blame it on the poor character of the father.


I'm 20:17 and I agree, that's why I posted it.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 20:57     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are your dcs?

You're tough. Good things are ahead!


My son will be 16 this month and my daughter will be 13. My daughter has had the most difficult time of the two adjusting. It helps that we are very good co-parents.

I have come a long way from the blow-up Christmas decoration massacre.

To all that are struggling through difficult break-ups or divorces, I promise you, there is hope and happiness on the other side.


I bet he is saying the same thing, "happiness on the other side."


A person who would post something like this is definitely winning at life! Because nothing says "things are going great for me!" like being mean to a hurting but hopeful hopeful woman.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 20:35     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
You are strong and deserve a happy life! Best wishes and many blessings to you and your kids, OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 20:33     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good for you and I wish all the best to you and your kids!

I know quite a few individuals who were in situations like your children and they turned out to be amazing adults in healthy marriages/relationships.


I read a study that concluded that kids of highly contentious divorces actually went on to have more successful marriages than kids of "amicable" divorces. They concluded this was the case because, in dramatically black/white situations, the kids grew up to blame the divorce on the poor character of one or both parents. In amicable divorces, the kids ended up more confused and commitment-phobic as adults because they blamed the institution of marriage for the failure, rather than the people involved.


I have heard this many times and it makes sense. I believe OP's kids know the situation so I am sure they blame it on the poor character of the father.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 20:17     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:Good for you and I wish all the best to you and your kids!

I know quite a few individuals who were in situations like your children and they turned out to be amazing adults in healthy marriages/relationships.


I read a study that concluded that kids of highly contentious divorces actually went on to have more successful marriages than kids of "amicable" divorces. They concluded this was the case because, in dramatically black/white situations, the kids grew up to blame the divorce on the poor character of one or both parents. In amicable divorces, the kids ended up more confused and commitment-phobic as adults because they blamed the institution of marriage for the failure, rather than the people involved.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 20:00     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Good for you and I wish all the best to you and your kids!

I know quite a few individuals who were in situations like your children and they turned out to be amazing adults in healthy marriages/relationships.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 19:56     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are your dcs?

You're tough. Good things are ahead!


My son will be 16 this month and my daughter will be 13. My daughter has had the most difficult time of the two adjusting. It helps that we are very good co-parents.

I have come a long way from the blow-up Christmas decoration massacre.

To all that are struggling through difficult break-ups or divorces, I promise you, there is hope and happiness on the other side.


I bet he is saying the same thing, "happiness on the other side."


Do you even have a clue what this woman went through before posting a dumb ass reply like this?
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2017 19:39     Subject: Finally divorced from husband who had a baby with his 26 year old assistant.
Keep a close eye on your daughter. Not trying to be negative, but the odds of her having major daddy/man issues are pretty high.