If the DH is ok with it, then sure.

I can see this being ok with people. If you really aren't interested in sex, why would you care if your spouse gets it elsewhere? Unless you are both cold and controlling.

'For better or worse' collided with reality. That's why there's couples therapy. And 'for better or worse' has sometimes made one or both spouses miserable. Definitely, a couple should give therapy an honest try. And, as I wrote, if a couple wants to try another way of managing the sexual aspect of their marriage, it's their business and no one else's.

Whatever happened to marry for better or worse?

I think couples therapy is a good place to start, before you start sleeping around. Many of us just stumble through relationships or marriage based on limited knowledge of ourselves and many of us bring all kinds of emotional baggage into our relationships. As for sex, that's a component of upbringing, religion and sometimes, culture. Or, simply, a man or woman is reticent or reluctant to say what turns them on, what feels good and what doesn't. No one enjoys being rejected or embarrassed.

Perhaps, for you two, an open marriage might work. And it's nobody's business but your own. But, look before you leap.

I have no doubt that certain couples can pull off an open marriage and it works for them. But from what I hear, there is a high failure rate for these agreements. My friends would be shocked I think this way, but at least with swinging both parties are there and the dynamics are different than if the husband and wife are with partners independently so maybe that is a solution.

Anonymous wrote:IOW wifey is hot for some BBC!

This.

Anonymous wrote:If your DW is not satisfied with sex with her DH, should she be allowed to have sexual encounters with other men if DH is OK with it?

If the other spouse is ok with it, then it doesn't matter what we think.

i'll give your woman what she needs...if she's hot enough

IOW wifey is hot for some BBC!

Or just let her get the damn cat she's been talking about!

As an advocate of the whole marriage thing, I would say wholeheartedly that no, it is not OK for her to sleep with others. The idea of marriage is that you live united as you face life together. You need to work through conflicts of any kind not by avoiding them but by confronting the issues. The ultimate goal is to reconcile the conflict and make your relationship stronger. Good communication is crucial in any relationship. What are her expectations? What are yours? Try to come up with a mutually satisfactory plan of action. If there is a physical problem, maybe you need to see a doctor. Don’t settle on infidelity as a fix for this situation. Fight for your relationship!

Anonymous wrote:If your DW is not satisfied with sex with her DH, should she be allowed to have sexual encounters with other men if DH is OK with it?

This is a sensitive issue, and one best discussed in connection with a marriage counselor or sex therapist.

Low quality troll thread.