Anonymous wrote:It took 5 dates to sleep with her? Bet she has a few more daddies hanging around. Get your self tested.

Not everyone spreads theirs legs on the first, second, or third date. Some women have self-respect.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, many of us have done stuff in our youth that we aren't necessarily proud of later on.

And as people mature & evolve, they DO change.

When she told you this, how was her demeanor?

Proud?
Ashamed?

That can speak volumes.....

Op here. I found out a week ago. She seemed embarrassed by it but relieved that I knew. I do feel like I'm falling in love, making things harder.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Because they are married and have children together dumbass.

That doesn't change a thing. They're still having all their sh*t paid for by a paramour, in exchange for either sex (as someone pointed out, debateable) or for the social recognition of accompanying the other person. It's still USING the other person for money.

You're f*cked in the head if that's how you see a sahm.

+ 1 someone forgot to take their medicine.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Because they are married and have children together dumbass.

That doesn't change a thing. They're still having all their sh*t paid for by a paramour, in exchange for either sex (as someone pointed out, debateable) or for the social recognition of accompanying the other person. It's still USING the other person for money.

You're f*cked in the head if that's how you see a sahm.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Because they are married and have children together dumbass.

That doesn't change a thing. They're still having all their sh*t paid for by a paramour, in exchange for either sex (as someone pointed out, debateable) or for the social recognition of accompanying the other person. It's still USING the other person for money.

Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Because they are married and have children together dumbass.

Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Well if you read the relationship forum, you know they aren't putting out.

Honestly, many of us have done stuff in our youth that we aren't necessarily proud of later on.

And as people mature & evolve, they DO change.

When she told you this, how was her demeanor?

Proud?
Ashamed?

That can speak volumes.....

How is this any different than the various sad, scorned SAHM's that want to leave but "need the financial support"?

Why did she tell you?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. The guy was young as well ( in 30's). I know some people don't see it as prostitution but I do.

Well then end it. You're just jealous because you can't do the same thing![/quote]

You mean have sex for money? Sure he could.

haha yeah right.

Well, maybe not with women.

Yes, it is soft prostitution, but the truth is that it is different only in degree, not in kind, from a broad array of dating-type relationships these days. I might be inclined to look past that in a way that I never would a multiple-client escorting type past. It's a tough call, especially if she is great otherwise.

If you have no moral objections to prostitution, this should not be an issue. She sold her body to help fund grad schools. That was in her past.

If you have problems with her being a former prostitute, just break up now rather than dragging her through the wringer.

It took 5 dates to sleep with her? Bet she has a few more daddies hanging around. Get your self tested.

What's done in the past is in the past. As adults, they had an understanding. She trusted you with this information not to judge her. As long there are no other real issues and her intentions with you are honest and her interactions with you genuine, I would suggest you forget about it. But you cannot since you have been stewing about this over a few months. Just go ahead and move on.