Yes, those are smart babies and want to be with mama all the time so any separation is an issue.
Mine was just like it.
It was insane few months.
What helps is to always always clean bottom very well before putting in the carseat and put extra
cream because when kiddo sits in the car seat they urine pools and burns in all he wrong places
even after one pee. Lots of cream helps.

What helped us even more was insane, we hated the idea of any tv from a young age let alone
baby but at one point we could not leave the house of family we visited as there was no way
we could put he arching baby into the car seat. The older kiddo appeared with a hand held
DVd player with some kids movie.

Our baby got instantly mesmerized, while looking at the screen we put Dc into the car seat
and had that kid to ride around the neighborhood while sitting next to the baby
and watching the screen together, worked like a c harm, but the moment we dropped of
kid by his home, the horror started again.
The mother in her mercy landed us their video player and we had a smooth ride home
and ever since we got ours and that was the only way to ride anyway for the next
couple years, Baby Einstein or any Baby video..

That was solid few years ago and seems like ancient history but I remember
sitting in the car crying for hour struggling with a baby who would screen murder
and arch after being nursed, being changed and refused to be put in the car seat.

It was painful to settle for technology at this age but sometimes it is not worth
the fight. I would not give an iphone a baby due to the radiation but
DVD player in a safe distance attached to the back of the front seat seemed
like good compromise.

I think it took about a year for each of my kids to be ok with the car. Bucket seat, convertible seat, RF, FF, full belly, empty belly, partially full belly, cold air blowing, driving at nap/nighttime, someone sitting in the back, static or white noise - nothing worked. Neither had reflux or tongue tied. One later developed motion sickness, the other did not. The only thing that kind of took the edge off is if I (Mom) sung the entire ride. It couldn't be anyone else or the radio. During the first year with each kid, minimized the time they spent in the car. For us, I think it was the confinement. Once they could see out the window better and there was more to a car ride than being strapped into a isolation chamber, they did ok.

Yes, for the better part of a year we had to minimize car rides for this reason. Many times we had to pull into a parking lot to get out, walk around, or nurse to calm down. DD never liked the stroller much either. Things got a bit better when we ditched the infant seat, but she also seemed to grow out of it more the older she got.

Yes. DS hated the car seat for like the first 4-5 months. I seriously dreaded going anywhere with him in the car. He would cry nonstop. By the time he was eating solids at 6 months he wasn't crying anymore and would actually fall asleep (finally) during car rides.

Anonymous wrote:How old is your child? My kids had reflux as babies and I couldn't put them in car seats at all for the first 6 months of their lives. Luckily I lived in the city so I was able to babywear them to all their appointments, etc.

Same here! My son screamed whenever in a car for the first 9-10 months. When reflux resolved and I bought a more upright seat, he was fine and started loving car rides -- and taking naps in car

Ds1 hated the car seat -- he's also high spirited.

Just be prepared to have a spirited child. DS2 is easy and falls asleep as soon as we start moving. (unless it is dark then he cries for a moment)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These stories make me sad. The car seat should be comfortable. I hope you people tried different seats instead of torturing your children until they puked. How would you like to be treated like that?

This is OP, thanks for your super helpful comment. What do you suggest? Buy a new carseat? Which one? What if she hates that one-- should we buy another?

Seriously, what a completely ignorant comment from the PP. Not all babies hate their seats due to discomfort. My DD hates the carseat because she hates being confined AT ALL and not being able to see everything since she's still rear facing. She can only tolerate the car seat if the straps are super loose and it's in the stroller where she can see everything. This obviously doesn't help at all when driving. We do what we can to make her comfortable but I won't risk her safety by making the straps loose or turning her forward facing prematurely so she can see.

Anonymous wrote:These stories make me sad. The car seat should be comfortable. I hope you people tried different seats instead of torturing your children until they puked. How would you like to be treated like that?

This is OP, thanks for your super helpful comment. What do you suggest? Buy a new carseat? Which one? What if she hates that one-- should we buy another?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses-- so glad to know we're not the only ones! She's 4.5 months and still in a bucket seat. I've wondered if maybe she's uncomfortable and if a convertible would help. I can't imagine it feels nice to be rear-facing; I'd get nauseous.

Also was the tongue tie comment a joke? She is indeed tongue tied

No it absolutely wasn't a joke! I don't remember / know exactly what the reasoning is (I'm sure google would explain it better than me), but it is definitely a thing - a lot of tongue tied babies HAAAATE their carseats pre-revision. Are you planning to have her tongue tie revised?

That's so interesting. The tongue tie was undiagnosed until recently and because breastfeeding is going well (and it is just a posterior tie) the ENT we saw thinks it won't cause any long term issues/should continue to stretch.

It's not that the carseat is uncomfortable. I have three children, and only one of them had this issue. She also had a twin that did not scream while in the carseat. She had the same reaction to strollers, high chairs, and anything that involved sitting and being strapped in. She did have reflux, unlike her twin and older sibling. It didn't stop until she was around 15 months old.

These stories make me sad. The car seat should be comfortable. I hope you people tried different seats instead of torturing your children until they puked. How would you like to be treated like that?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses-- so glad to know we're not the only ones! She's 4.5 months and still in a bucket seat. I've wondered if maybe she's uncomfortable and if a convertible would help. I can't imagine it feels nice to be rear-facing; I'd get nauseous.

Also was the tongue tie comment a joke? She is indeed tongue tied

No it absolutely wasn't a joke! I don't remember / know exactly what the reasoning is (I'm sure google would explain it better than me), but it is definitely a thing - a lot of tongue tied babies HAAAATE their carseats pre-revision. Are you planning to have her tongue tie revised?

OP here. Thanks for all the responses-- so glad to know we're not the only ones! She's 4.5 months and still in a bucket seat. I've wondered if maybe she's uncomfortable and if a convertible would help. I can't imagine it feels nice to be rear-facing; I'd get nauseous.

Also was the tongue tie comment a joke? She is indeed tongue tied

My first hated the car seat and car rides until 6-8 months and then was fine. My second still hates the car now at 16 months. We turned him around this weekend and it seems a bit better but not totally. Poor kid is so congested that the screaming led to puking two days in a row.

Baby screamed during road trips (3 hr) for the first 10months. Happy to say that at 12 months, he is now a road warrior.