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Anonymous wrote:Op here- I guess maybe I'm being dramatic and will own that if that's the DCUM consensus. That's why I came here anonymously (with details changed of course) to get a reality check before saying anything. I think I'm more hurt than anything, but I appreciate all the replies.

Mother has said she will not roll over and pay for another house. I think I'm upset about this latest slight because I have underlying feelings of dislike and disgust towards my brother and SIL who are entitled and think my Mom is their personal ATM. My Mom has finally had enough and is not giving them any more money.

Really OP? I would have never guessed

Grow up OP

Oh and NP here. Their relationship with your mom is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. I can't imagine why they chose not to tell your don't be surprised when they opt out of allowing you in this baby's life.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I guess maybe I'm being dramatic and will own that if that's the DCUM consensus. That's why I came here anonymously (with details changed of course) to get a reality check before saying anything. I think I'm more hurt than anything, but I appreciate all the replies.

Mother has said she will not roll over and pay for another house. I think I'm upset about this latest slight because I have underlying feelings of dislike and disgust towards my brother and SIL who are entitled and think my Mom is their personal ATM. My Mom has finally had enough and is not giving them any more money.

Really OP? I would have never guessed

Grow up OP

If I ever get pregnant again my SIL will be the very last to know. I know that she can't keep a secret and is full of unsolicited advice. Just stay out of it and if you're going to be mad, be mad at your brother. Telling you wasn't her responsibility.

Anonymous wrote:She assumed your mom would tell you. You are acting nuts. Why aren't you mad at your brother?

+1

She probably got the nuts vibe off of you and is keeping her distance.

She assumed your mom would tell you. You are acting nuts. Why aren't you mad at your brother?

This is really not a big deal. Like at all. I mean it will be awkward if she sends a birth notice without letting you know but if she's not even 20 weeks yet (which it seems?) I dont think its really something to be mad or offended about??

Just get over it and text your brother. You don't need to hear it from SIL just because she's the bread baker. Sounds like you just need someone/something to be mad at.

She probably figured your brother already told you.

She probably figured your brother already told you.

How about be mad at your BROTHER? It's as much his news and his call.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- SIL told my Mom not to tell me, that's why it bothers me because everyone else in the family was worthy of the news before the sacred 3 month mark except me?? Anyway now I realise I am being dramatic (thank you DCUM) so I will let it go

Look, she told your mom not to tell because it was before the 12 week mark. That time has come and gone. It's fine if your mother tells you. Your SIL probably assumes she will at this point. AND it's fine if you contact the SIL and brother together to send a congratulatory email. But you probably won't do that becasue that would be a kind, mature thing to do. You'd prefer to stew in your drama and wait for your SIL to say something. SIL will probably forget. Then you'll complain how long it took to say something to you. And you'll be back here.

Rinse and repeat.

This is on your brother. Your sil sucks, but your brother is the one who should be telling you this news.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- SIL told my Mom not to tell me, that's why it bothers me because everyone else in the family was worthy of the news before the sacred 3 month mark except me?? Anyway now I realise I am being dramatic (thank you DCUM) so I will let it go

Well, it seems personal because she specifically told your Mom not to tell you. Just pretend like you don't know, so you don't have to offer congratulation to her. Don't let it bothers you that much. She is who she is, and it's not going to change.

If you want to get back at her, you could always call up your brother and say "congratulations!" . But you're not going to do that.

Op here- SIL told my Mom not to tell me, that's why it bothers me because everyone else in the family was worthy of the news before the sacred 3 month mark except me?? Anyway now I realise I am being dramatic (thank you DCUM) so I will let it go

I'm super sensitive, over dramatic, and have a frosty relationship with my SIL. But even I think this is way over the top. I can't remember being personally informed of a single one of my SIL's pregnancies and as sensitive and dramatic as I am, it never occurred to me to be upset. Damn!