Anonymous
03/01/2017 18:00
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
We have a great relationship but do occasionally fight about doing stuff around the house or if one of us feels like the other isn't pulling his/her weight.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:58
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
-Imbalanced parenting responsibilities
-relatives/extend family situations
-me bugging him because he didn't follow through
-relatives/extend family situations
-me bugging him because he didn't follow through
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:51
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
We don't fight. I guess the closest thing to fighting is who drank all the juice.
mshakespeare
03/01/2017 17:23
Subject: What do people fight about?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What topics do you avoid and why? There is nothing I cannot talk about with my husband. Sometimes it hurts or is hard, but we've both learned avoidance leads to resentment.
We avoid getting in too deep on politics (she's a democrat, I'm republican) and things like abortion. She's pro-choice and while I support a woman's right to choose I am against it. We know what we disagree on and do our best to avoid hot topics. I have enormous respect for her opinions even if I disagree with some of them.
How the hell did you survive this election???
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:21
Subject: What do people fight about?
Anonymous wrote:What topics do you avoid and why? There is nothing I cannot talk about with my husband. Sometimes it hurts or is hard, but we've both learned avoidance leads to resentment.
We avoid getting in too deep on politics (she's a democrat, I'm republican) and things like abortion. She's pro-choice and while I support a woman's right to choose I am against it. We know what we disagree on and do our best to avoid hot topics. I have enormous respect for her opinions even if I disagree with some of them.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:08
Subject: What do people fight about?
What topics do you avoid and why? There is nothing I cannot talk about with my husband. Sometimes it hurts or is hard, but we've both learned avoidance leads to resentment.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:07
Subject: What do people fight about?
DW and I don't fight very often, but when we do it is usually because we are both tired and stressed about something else, and one of us hits the others ones sore spots - money, respect, etc.
It comes, we yell at each other, we're over it by the time we go to bed.
It comes, we yell at each other, we're over it by the time we go to bed.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:03
Subject: What do people fight about?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
Yes, we have children. We do discuss parenting styles on occasion ... rarely a fight. We defnitely have different styles, but what I can't do, he sometimes can, and vice versa.
But I think PP's point about how I define fight. Raised voices, I think. Heated. Emotions are high, yes. Upset. No violence (although, that would qualify). Discussion isn't a fight.
I just read about "fights" here and think, fights? Really?
Mostly we are very caring about each other's feelings. But, there are topics I will avoid.
Do you ever feel anger towards your husband?
Anonymous
03/01/2017 17:01
Subject: What do people fight about?
I don't think it's bad to not fight, OP, though many couples do. I sometimes feel a little unusual because DH and I basically never fight. We bicker sometimes, or are smart assess to one another when we're irritated about things, but it never escalates past that. We've been together 12 years, married 7, have one toddler.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:55
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
We've been married a ling time and have never had what I would call a fight. Our values and priorities are pretty in sync and neither of us is temperamental by nature. We've had some disagreements and disappointments but have never yelled at each other. At the same time we've never had make up sex so I might be missing something.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:52
Subject: What do people fight about?
OP here.
Yes, we have children. We do discuss parenting styles on occasion ... rarely a fight. We defnitely have different styles, but what I can't do, he sometimes can, and vice versa.
But I think PP's point about how I define fight. Raised voices, I think. Heated. Emotions are high, yes. Upset. No violence (although, that would qualify). Discussion isn't a fight.
I just read about "fights" here and think, fights? Really?
Mostly we are very caring about each other's feelings. But, there are topics I will avoid.
Yes, we have children. We do discuss parenting styles on occasion ... rarely a fight. We defnitely have different styles, but what I can't do, he sometimes can, and vice versa.
But I think PP's point about how I define fight. Raised voices, I think. Heated. Emotions are high, yes. Upset. No violence (although, that would qualify). Discussion isn't a fight.
I just read about "fights" here and think, fights? Really?
Mostly we are very caring about each other's feelings. But, there are topics I will avoid.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:49
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
We fight about money and lack thereof! Sometimes about his messiness, not pulling his weight around the house (which is really only taking out the trash- come on!).
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:47
Subject: What do people fight about?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For us it is parenting differences. OP-- do you have children?
This. DH and I dated/were married for nearly 4 years before having kids and we never, ever fought or even really argued during that time. Debates, sure, but arguments, no. Then we had a baby. Poof. Arguments about who was doing more and getting enough sleep and whose fault it was that the baby was crying and who had to miss work if he was sick, etc etc. Fast forward 3 years (and expecting baby 2) and kids/parenting is still the only thing we ever fight about. And we're not even far apart on those issues. It's just the stress of parenting and sometimes lack of sleep causes us (especially me, I will admit) to be more sensitive or argumentative than we otherwise would be. But we love each other and the kiddo so it's ok ... and at least we are aware of that pattern as number 2 approaches!
Exactly.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:42
Subject: Re:What do people fight about?
We almost never "fight" in terms of yelling/raised voices, but we do have occasional disagreements or difficult conversations where emotions are high and it's difficult for us to see each other's perspectives. Most often about DH's crazy family. Other than that, we agree on most things, are flexible with each other's needs, and have a good division of labor at home, so there's very little discord.
Anonymous
03/01/2017 16:25
Subject: What do people fight about?
Anonymous wrote:For us it is parenting differences. OP-- do you have children?
This. DH and I dated/were married for nearly 4 years before having kids and we never, ever fought or even really argued during that time. Debates, sure, but arguments, no. Then we had a baby. Poof. Arguments about who was doing more and getting enough sleep and whose fault it was that the baby was crying and who had to miss work if he was sick, etc etc. Fast forward 3 years (and expecting baby 2) and kids/parenting is still the only thing we ever fight about. And we're not even far apart on those issues. It's just the stress of parenting and sometimes lack of sleep causes us (especially me, I will admit) to be more sensitive or argumentative than we otherwise would be. But we love each other and the kiddo so it's ok ... and at least we are aware of that pattern as number 2 approaches!