Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 11:16     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
My vote is that she plans to disclose some kind of childhood abuse that she thinks OP may have also experienced.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 11:11     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
I'm nosy too - you have to call and update, OP!
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 10:33     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
I think your approach is right, and not bitchy at all OP.

I have a very dysfunctional family also and protecting my nuclear family from that insanity has been a top priority for me (and also a really helpful way for me to draw and maintain boundaries for myself.)

Good for you. I hope it's nothing that troubles you beyond managing the contact with your cousin.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 09:55     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
update? I am curious if it was money
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 09:06     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She needs money.


That would be my first guess. I'd have no problem calling, but you have to be the kind of person who can say no and keep firm boundaries.


Yup, I vote for she needs money. You are probably one of the few family members that has her life together.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 09:06     Subject: Re:WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Call from a random phone if you can. My curiosity would get the best of me, but would be prepared to say no and get off the phone quick.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 09:00     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Anonymous wrote:She needs money.


That would be my first guess. I'd have no problem calling, but you have to be the kind of person who can say no and keep firm boundaries.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2017 08:37     Subject: Re:WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
+4 to being nosy - and thinking she needs money.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 23:58     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
OP the fact that she didn't tell you what just means it's some weird trap.

Ok, so honestly, what could it possibly be that would be sooooo great that you would want to be involved with them? I can only think of two reasons...

1) the brother left you a million dollars. (well it's not going to be that...)

2) you and the brother, or her, are really siblings or something like that....
Let's say it's true....so...what? So you're going to get involved in that mess due to some shared DNA? Start down the road of spit tests etc?

Keep your eyes on the prize, OP...your calm life and the healthy environment you made for your kids.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 23:39     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Call but block your number. Then update here.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 23:02     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
eh, I'd call her back. All that drama that you mentioned wasn't her doing.

+3 to being nosy, too.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 22:57     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell us what happens! I'm nosy

+1 me too

+2
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 21:36     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Anonymous wrote:Tell us what happens! I'm nosy

+1 me too
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 21:11     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Tell us what happens! I'm nosy
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2017 21:06     Subject: WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
Ignore. You're too good to get involved in that crap.