Anonymous wrote:Lol, no misunderstanding. It was a small, newish school and they literally said they needed my DD's SAT scores. Tried to get the daughters of one board member to befriend her to change her mind about leaving. My DD just needed more in the way of academic challenge than the smaller school could provide. That Big Three changed her life. It was worth the commitment.

Truisms:

1. It's better to presume good intentions.

2. Intentions are not always good.

Glad it worked out for you and your daughter!
Peter

Lol, no misunderstanding. It was a small, newish school and they literally said they needed my DD's SAT scores. Tried to get the daughters of one board member to befriend her to change her mind about leaving. My DD just needed more in the way of academic challenge than the smaller school could provide. That Big Three changed her life. It was worth the commitment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I forgot to add, the previous school did not want my DD to leave and expressed that to the new school.

Wow, that really stinks, pp. Is this a common practice? DC is a smart kid at a K-8, one of the top in her class and I know the school doesn't want to lose her. But, would they say that to the schools to which we are applying?

PP: I wonder if you're misinterpreting? In cases like those, I was candid with the school to which our student was applying as well. My intention was to convey: "Great kid. We'd love to hang on to her, but we understand it's a family decision and we can't (and wouldn't) stop them even if we wanted to." It was a recommendation, not an attempt at sabotage.

Sometimes the new school would offer a spot, sometimes they'd say, "We have too many for 7, but come back in two years." That was the most common reply at the most competitive schools.

Peter

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I forgot to add, the previous school did not want my DD to leave and expressed that to the new school.

Wow, that really stinks, pp. Is this a common practice? DC is a smart kid at a K-8, one of the top in her class and I know the school doesn't want to lose her. But, would they say that to the schools to which we are applying?

Oh, I forgot to add, the previous school did not want my DD to leave and expressed that to the new school.

My DD was rejected by a Big Three, but they told us privately that we should apply the next year as an off cycle admit. Got in without a hitch.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you, Peter- excellent advice. We are at a k-8 applying out so we have a few more years before we really need to leave. IF DC is waitlisted, I will request to meet with an AD in June/July or early Sept to see if they have any suggestions.

Great! Make the meeting a quick one. The script: You understand, of course, that there are no guarantees, but you're hoping for a little clarification on what their encouragement to reapply means, because you really love the school and remain interested.

Good luck!
Peter

Thank you, Peter- excellent advice. We are at a k-8 applying out so we have a few more years before we really need to leave. IF DC is waitlisted, I will request to meet with an AD in June/July or early Sept to see if they have any suggestions.