Death - other than that whatever problems you have with this immediate family member will go nuclear. Is that what you want and are prepared for? Why would you be invited to be in the wedding if you don't get along? You can probably wiggle out from being in the wedding, but not from attending. Go, drink, dance and it will soon be over.

What's a good way to avoid being in & attending an immediate family member's wedding? RSVP no.

What's a good way to avoid being in & attending an immediate family member's wedding...without having to deal with any consequences? There isn't.

Immediate family. Who is it? Brother, sister, mother, your child? Is the wedding within 100 miles? Do you have a good relationship with the person? Did they sleep with your husband? Kick your dog? Dad marrying the other woman? Details matter.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no

This!

1000x this. So easy.

Just say no.

Just reply no. No explanation needed and then offer your best wishes

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no

Seems to be the most straightforward.

And if you want to avoid additional follow-up questions, just say "I wish I could, but I can't make it" if asked why you RSVPed no. Be intentionally vague and the person will likely not pursue. It gives off the vibe that there's something personal going on that you don't want to share. Of course, you might feel a little slimy about that, but we don't know your situation, so whatever. I use this method successfully to get out of potential commitments at work.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!

I need more info - who is it and why don't you want to attend or be in the wedding?

Travel. Work travel. That's the best because people get that.

The other is to just rsvp yes, then get sick.

(Of course you could just rsvp no, but I'm assuming that you are trying to avoid family drama)

The one thing I've learned is that even if there is a constellation of factors that lead you to your "no" decision, just pick one factor and stick to it. For example, if your decision was based on "too far, will miss too much work, will have to leave my young DC too long, don't like DC's babysitter, too expensive, and DH doesn't want to go..." just pick ONE factor and make that your excuse. Do not recommend using the $$ one, though, because someone will offer to pay and then you'll be stuck.

Anyways I vote say yes then get sick, for minimal family drama purposes. A wedding is not the place to make a stand. (although many brides, and guests, try to do that, it's not right imo). So on that note, if you are saying no because you are making a stand, please reconsider.

Anonymous wrote:RSVP no

Seems to be the most straightforward.

Say no. If it's for travel or money reasons, be honest. My friend is getting married and had her best friend (former best friend) lie about why she didn't want to be in the wedding or attend. The lies were pretty bold too. The lies were discovered and it was awful for my friend. Be an adult and be honest

Here's a novel idea.....Just say "no". Seriously, can't you kindly deliver the truth? "It won't be possible for me to participate." You don't have to say anything mean-spirited, nor do you have to justify your feelings.

You already bought travel tickets for a vacay in those dates- non refundable. Then remember not to spill the beans in social media that weekend.

Anonymous wrote:Being days away from delivering a baby, being in labor or recovering from childbirth on event day would do it.

+1

That's how I did it!