I think a lot of white people assume that non whites don't want to be their friend so they don't try.

Anonymous wrote:Another AA no issue. I'm a pretty outgoing person though.

+1. I also keep a fully stocked candy bowl at my desk, so there's that. My best work friend is white and let me stay her beach house for two weeks no charge.

Anonymous wrote:I'm south Asian and born and raised in the US. I have felt some slight exclusion in DC workplaces in a way I didn't feel in California. Part of the issue is that there are not other south Asians at work and is very black and white.

What industry? There are tons of Indian chicks in D.C.

I worked with an asian woman with a very thick accent and honestly didn't engage with her much because she was very difficult to understand. However, she continued to make an effort and I got to know her and really like her a lot. But I will admit (and I'm mixed race) that initially I wasn't as friendly with her as I would have been not because I had anything against her, but because it was an effort to understand her. I will say I learned from that experience.

I'm south Asian and born and raised in the US. I have felt some slight exclusion in DC workplaces in a way I didn't feel in California. Part of the issue is that there are not other south Asians at work and is very black and white.

This is OP I am an introvert. I do try to keep to myself and only run into people in the hallway.

It is probably me.

I'm white and born here. I'm an introvert. Have always felt socially rejected at work. It's not only happening to you OP.

If you have an accent, you'll have to do more of the initiation. They might be just wary that you're so culturally different it'd be awkward to have a casual conversation without misunderstandings.

Anonymous wrote:I am a foreigner that has been in the US for 15 years. It never crossed my mind that the distance that people keep was because of racism. I consider it cultural. People keep to themselves more in the states.

But I guess the new trend is to blame everything and everybody on racism.

Go for it OP if it makes you feel better.

Are you black? Are you American? How would you know about racism
In the Us?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am white, but I am an immigrant who has an accent. Over my 20 years in the workforce in the US, I have noticed that people may not be as eager to welcome me as those who don't have accents. But as long as I put myself out there and am friendly (I am an introvert also, so this is a skill I had to learn) I have no problem becoming friends with people.

are you pretty?

About average

Yes, I get along fine (and am friends) with other women of color and foreign born white women in my office, but get a real cold shoulder from American white women. Now that I think about it I get along well with American white women in our regional offices so maybe it's a DC thing.

Why are people assuming op is a foreigner? For all we know she was born here and has never left the US in her entire life.

I am a foreigner that has been in the US for 15 years. It never crossed my mind that the distance that people keep was because of racism. I consider it cultural. People keep to themselves more in the states.

But I guess the new trend is to blame everything and everybody on racism.

Go for it OP if it makes you feel better.

Anonymous wrote:I am white, but I am an immigrant who has an accent. Over my 20 years in the workforce in the US, I have noticed that people may not be as eager to welcome me as those who don't have accents. But as long as I put myself out there and am friendly (I am an introvert also, so this is a skill I had to learn) I have no problem becoming friends with people.

are you pretty?

I am white, but I am an immigrant who has an accent. Over my 20 years in the workforce in the US, I have noticed that people may not be as eager to welcome me as those who don't have accents. But as long as I put myself out there and am friendly (I am an introvert also, so this is a skill I had to learn) I have no problem becoming friends with people.