Anonymous wrote:I'm sensing here that most of the sexless marriages don't then morph back into a regular sexy marriage. Not often cured?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a medical condition that makes sex painful (like, in pain for days" painful). I try to show my DH I love him in other ways, but I hate seeing these threads. They always make me feel like DH would be justified in getting fucked elsewhere.
I didn't ask to get sick.
This is my situation. Years of cancer treatment and various hormonal drugs have left me physically unable to have sex (unless I want to have excruciating pain), and I also have neuropathy. Luckily my DH is in his fifties now, and after 30+ years his sex drive has lessened, but I still feel awful.
My heart goes out to the two of you.
As a DH who has struggled with bridging the libido gap with my lower drive DW, let me assure you there is a difference between how a husband feels when his wife can't have sex vs. she won't have sex. If my wife is sick, or we have family visiting, or any other number of obstacles, I miss the sex but I don't feel rejected. Not the same way as when she chooses to bury herself in facebook or any number of other activities that send a message that our sex life comes last on the list.
My 2 cents - there are other ways to express intimacy, sure oral is one of them. I think just maintaining the message that you find your husband desirable and want intimacy with him but for the illness.
Good luck.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a medical condition that makes sex painful (like, in pain for days" painful). I try to show my DH I love him in other ways, but I hate seeing these threads. They always make me feel like DH would be justified in getting fucked elsewhere.
I didn't ask to get sick.
This is my situation. Years of cancer treatment and various hormonal drugs have left me physically unable to have sex (unless I want to have excruciating pain), and I also have neuropathy. Luckily my DH is in his fifties now, and after 30+ years his sex drive has lessened, but I still feel awful.
Anonymous wrote:I'm sensing here that most of the sexless marriages don't then morph back into a regular sexy marriage. Not often cured?
Anonymous wrote:I have a medical condition that makes sex painful (like, in pain for days" painful). I try to show my DH I love him in other ways, but I hate seeing these threads. They always make me feel like DH would be justified in getting fucked elsewhere.
I didn't ask to get sick.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating.
How did you meet AP?
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again.
Sorry but time seems to blow up the "happy" marriages affairs cannot sustain without the truth eventually coming out but good luck to you if it works - I love married men I just don't like their wives they always seem to make the affairs complicated
I know .. the nerve of the wives to actually expect their husbands to be faithful, and to commit to a simple, non-sexual life of honoring your vows.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating.
How did you meet AP?
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again.
I'm the PP who wants to have sex with her physical therapist. I'm jealous that you get to travel through work and have that escape. My job is the least sexy ever and I only ever come into contact with middle aged women. Maybe it's for the best, though. Better to not be tempted.
If you want to have sex with your physical therapist, at least switch physical therapists for the physical therapy, then go have sex with the first physical therapist--otherwise they could get into big professional trouble, and you wouldn't want to be the cause of that, would you?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating.
How did you meet AP?
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again.
Sorry but time seems to blow up the "happy" marriages affairs cannot sustain without the truth eventually coming out but good luck to you if it works - I love married men I just don't like their wives they always seem to make the affairs complicated
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating.
How did you meet AP?
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Four years of a sexless marriage and finally took an AP. And I'm over the moon.
Feeling like a sexual being again has been very empowering and liberating.
How did you meet AP?
Through work when I travel. We are both married and don't want to blow up our families, just want to feel alive and sexual again.
I'm the PP who wants to have sex with her physical therapist. I'm jealous that you get to travel through work and have that escape. My job is the least sexy ever and I only ever come into contact with middle aged women. Maybe it's for the best, though. Better to not be tempted.