Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 11:01     Subject: Re:What does this answer mean?
Anonymous wrote:What was going on when you asked him that?


Honestly, not much at all. I got home from the gym and he didn't say a word to me so I asked him why he never asks me how my workout was. I know that sounds really dumb but I think it just built up over time, and bothered me that he never seemed to care an ounce about how my day was or what I did. It seems small but I personally feel that the little day-to-day interactions give the biggest signals about relationship health. I'm in a new relationship and I always make a point to ask him how his day was or what he did, even what he did for lunch. He does the same. I'm much happier. My ex is remarried too. I don't know if he's happy but I hope he is more caring and involved for her than he was for me.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 10:57     Subject: Re:What does this answer mean?
What was going on when you asked him that?
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 10:53     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I asked my XH the day we decided to get a divorce if he still wanted to be married to me and his answer was "I don't know." Which I took as "no." I'm much happier now.


If he had said hes, what would you have done?


In all likelihood, made more of an effort to get closer and work on things. But I had my answer, and that was that.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 10:33     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Anonymous wrote:I asked my XH the day we decided to get a divorce if he still wanted to be married to me and his answer was "I don't know." Which I took as "no." I'm much happier now.


If he had said hes, what would you have done?
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 10:16     Subject: What does this answer mean?
I asked my XH the day we decided to get a divorce if he still wanted to be married to me and his answer was "I don't know." Which I took as "no." I'm much happier now.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 10:07     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Yep, he really doesn't care if you are there or not. Leave, asap.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 09:04     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Anonymous wrote:It means it's time for you to move on. If he can't give a straight answer, then he's not worth your time, effort and energy.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 09:01     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Anonymous wrote:When I asked him, "Do you want me in your life? Yes or no"
And he replies with "you decide"



When I asked him "Do you want chicken or fish for dinner?"
And he replies with "you decide"

It basically means that he doesn't really care.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:43     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Never speak to him again.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:24     Subject: Re:What does this answer mean?
Indifference means he doesn't care about you like you do him. If he really wanted you wouldn't have to ask- he would have already made that decision
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:18     Subject: What does this answer mean?
It means if decide if you want to play by his rules, because he isn't compromising.

To put it simply: he is not leaving his wife for you.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:08     Subject: Re:What does this answer mean?
It means he has another mistress. You've moved to the #2 spot.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:03     Subject: What does this answer mean?
It means NO. People have trouble coming out and saying it, but that's as clear as it gets.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2017 08:01     Subject: What does this answer mean?
Interesting, now that he has stood up for himself, OP,may not feel the love but certainly seems like she's feeling lust for this guy, hence the conflicting thoughts in her head.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2017 18:29     Subject: What does this answer mean?
As my mom used to say, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. And that is where he is now.