Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 17:20     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
I once read this forum for other women and some of the stories made me sad. Some of these women have self esteem issues. Some had been the ow for decades. Some had children with the MM. the one that broke my heart was one woman gave birth alone. The MM was coming in a couple of weeks to meet the baby awful.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 17:14     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Romantic love is relatively new to marriage. Infidelity isn't the exception, it's the rule. In all of human history it is much more common than monogamy. You really have to have blinders on to think infidelity is a huge moral failing. I think the people who get so riled up get that way not because they are right, but they are terrified this will happen to them and they know it's possible.


This is so far from true.


Oh yeah? How's that? Elaborate.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 16:46     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:My sister's ex SIL found out about her father's 24 year affair. No one else knew or suspected. He was a pharmaceutical salesman and had another home in another city with his girlfriend. The girlfriend knew he was married but didn't care. The family found out when my sister's SIL announced it at a family dinner.

When someone says the shit hit the fan, it does.


His wife knew. What, do you think she's gonna tell her kids that she looked the other way?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 16:38     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:My cousin. 27 years and 5 kids by him. Sad thing is she had a good and single man interested in her, but she threw that away for a fantasy.


Does his wife know?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 16:05     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
My cousin. 27 years and 5 kids by him. Sad thing is she had a good and single man interested in her, but she threw that away for a fantasy.

Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 14:45     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:I guess it's not an affair anymore because I know about it and tolerate it, and we don't live together anymore, but my DH has been with the same woman now for around 9 years.

The kids and I don't even know where he lives, and he likes it that way.

I get everything in my life paid for, I get to raise my kids, I don't have to have sex with him or deal with his bullshit anymore.

He's coming "home" for Christmas and half of me feels like saying, who cares, no one misses you anymore anyway ...


Do you live in the same city? Does he live with her? Do you date?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 14:35     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
I wanted to throw out that recently a new book came out, and it turns out Spencer Tracy was gay ! He had married and had kids, I think. His wife knew he was gay. The "affair" with Katharine Hepburn was a cover, according to this new book. Katharine was gay, of course.
Now please don't crucify me, I am just relating what was recently in a news article I read. I will go try to find the name of that book. I believe it, the sourcing was good. Did anyone else see that?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2016 14:21     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
I guess it's not an affair anymore because I know about it and tolerate it, and we don't live together anymore, but my DH has been with the same woman now for around 9 years.

The kids and I don't even know where he lives, and he likes it that way.

I get everything in my life paid for, I get to raise my kids, I don't have to have sex with him or deal with his bullshit anymore.

He's coming "home" for Christmas and half of me feels like saying, who cares, no one misses you anymore anyway ...
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 20:54     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:Romantic love is relatively new to marriage. Infidelity isn't the exception, it's the rule. In all of human history it is much more common than monogamy. You really have to have blinders on to think infidelity is a huge moral failing. I think the people who get so riled up get that way not because they are right, but they are terrified this will happen to them and they know it's possible.


This is so far from true.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 19:12     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:Romantic love is relatively new to marriage. Infidelity isn't the exception, it's the rule. In all of human history it is much more common than monogamy. You really have to have blinders on to think infidelity is a huge moral failing. I think the people who get so riled up get that way not because they are right, but they are terrified this will happen to them and they know it's possible.


+1000, perfectly said!!
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 19:10     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Romantic love is relatively new to marriage. Infidelity isn't the exception, it's the rule. In all of human history it is much more common than monogamy. You really have to have blinders on to think infidelity is a huge moral failing. I think the people who get so riled up get that way not because they are right, but they are terrified this will happen to them and they know it's possible.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 17:00     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
PP, stop being so smug. Not all marriages are alike, some spouses have no expectation of sexual fidelity as long as there is a clear distinction between the status of a spouse and a non-spouse.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 16:57     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There sure are a lot of judgments going on here....honestly I know several affairs and the reason's behind them are numerous, some of which I personally don't think make the people involved monsters. Life is not black and white and the way in which you judge makes it seem as though it is. I hope none of you are ever faced with life circumstances that put you in vulnerable places.


Many many people end up in life circumstances and vulnerable places but they choose not to cheat. Stop justifying this reprehensible behavior.


Calm down. People are complicated, and everything is not black and white. So an affair is not acceptable to you in your marriage. Noted. Don't pretend you know everything about all relationships.



Ah the famous line used by every dishonest person. Life is complicated when you are dishonest. Stop with the excuses. Life is about making choices. Some people when faced with adversity choose the high road others the low path. When you make the chose to cheat, no one held a gun to your head you independently made that decision. You could've just as easily decided not to cheat regardless of the reason.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 16:51     Subject: What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
My dad had an affair for at least 10 years before he finally divorced my mom. Could have been longer, but I know of the 10 years. From when I was 2 to 12.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2016 16:08     Subject: Re:What's the longest affair (time) you've heard of
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There sure are a lot of judgments going on here....honestly I know several affairs and the reason's behind them are numerous, some of which I personally don't think make the people involved monsters. Life is not black and white and the way in which you judge makes it seem as though it is. I hope none of you are ever faced with life circumstances that put you in vulnerable places.


Many many people end up in life circumstances and vulnerable places but they choose not to cheat. Stop justifying this reprehensible behavior.


Calm down. People are complicated, and everything is not black and white. So an affair is not acceptable to you in your marriage. Noted. Don't pretend you know everything about all relationships.