Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:18     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:Nobody in my DH's family loads the dishwasher properly. I noticed SIL's husband having the same cows that I do about dishes poorly placed in a way they will never get clean or they will be damaged. DH does exactly the same thing. He will actually put all the pots face down on the top rack, and then because there's no more room on the top rack, he starts putting glasses on the bottom rack. I try to explain that the top and bottom racks have different purposes and he acts like I'm overbearing and OCD. I'd rather be critical than have to pick broken glass out of the dishwasher.


How many times have you "picked broken glass our of the dishwasher"?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:16     Subject: Re:Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anybody that lets the way a dishwasher is loaded bother them is clearly on the spectrum for OCD.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:16     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Not annoyed, but puzzled that NO woman I've ever known, including DW, knows how to stack the dishwasher properly. So I always have to do it.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:15     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
I can't stand when DH does dishes or laundry. Dishes are packed so close together that they never get clean, and he turns off the dry setting so that when I open the dishwasher to put the dishes away they are wet.

And laundry? Everything goes together. Whites, darks, towels, delicates. Then he dries them on a low setting so that they don't dry completely.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:14     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Nobody in my DH's family loads the dishwasher properly. I noticed SIL's husband having the same cows that I do about dishes poorly placed in a way they will never get clean or they will be damaged. DH does exactly the same thing. He will actually put all the pots face down on the top rack, and then because there's no more room on the top rack, he starts putting glasses on the bottom rack. I try to explain that the top and bottom racks have different purposes and he acts like I'm overbearing and OCD. I'd rather be critical than have to pick broken glass out of the dishwasher.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:10     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Ha, my DH gets so annoyed at how I load the dishwasher (among other household tasks). He used to tell me how to do tasks, which led to me doing just the bare minimum to get him to shut up, and it led to a lot of resentment on both ends. Micromanaging- whether you're on the giving or receiving end- isn't good for a marriage. It's really not a big deal if you have to run the dishwasher a little more frequently than you would otherwise.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 08:04     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:no, doesn't annoy me at all. i'm just happy the dishes are getting done and i don't have to do it.


This! They are still getting washed...


When DH loads and runs the dishwasher on his own, he never unloads it. When I come along to unload it, about half of the dishes are actually clean and the other half end up being put back in the dishwasher (the right way this time) to be run with the next load. So DH doing anything does not equate to a job getting "done" unfortunately.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 07:56     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:Small plates where the big plates go, bowls placed haphazardly, no thinking or care about about organization leaving me to re-do it. It drives me crazy! Am I alone with this problem?


I'd never say or admit this, but OMG yes. Zero sense of spatial relations, and apparently a lack of understanding that if you completely block the path of water to a particular dish, it cannot get washed. Sometimes in marriage one must bite one's tongue, though.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 07:20     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Oh my gosh, I am so happy that my DH and I are both relaxed about this kind of thing...
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 07:06     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
I only get annoyed if someone puts big pots and pans in the dishwasher, leaving no room for anything else. I wind up taking those right back out and washing them myself so that we'll have a place to put plates and bowls. Beyond that, I don't care about the order of the way the dishes are placed in there.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 06:30     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:Small plates where the big plates go, bowls placed haphazardly, no thinking or care about about organization leaving me to re-do it. It drives me crazy! Am I alone with this problem?


This is my DH too. The dishes area all over the place and drives me crazy. I re-do them so that the dishes get clean.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 06:24     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:Small plates where the big plates go, bowls placed haphazardly, no thinking or care about about organization leaving me to re-do it. It drives me crazy! Am I alone with this problem?


I get annoyed when DH rearranges the dishwasher after I have loaded it. As a result, it is his job now.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 06:23     Subject: Re:Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
I know Lynsey dH gets annoyed and I try to do it better. I have a very poor sense of spatial awareness. He rarely brings it up though.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 06:10     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
Anonymous wrote:After being together for almost 25 years, I've learned not to sweat the small stuff. I just rearrange the dishes the way I want and appreciate all the ways my wife makes me happy.


Same!
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2016 05:58     Subject: Do you get annoyed when DW loads the dishwasher improperly?
After being together for almost 25 years, I've learned not to sweat the small stuff. I just rearrange the dishes the way I want and appreciate all the ways my wife makes me happy.