Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I had my daughter I would have said yes, go. My mother left me with a revolving door of nannies for my while entire childhood. I can't remember any conversation with her that doesn't involve her standing in her closet or in the bathroom with her back to me.

And I thought I'd parent the same way. I came out fine. Then she was born, and there was no way in hell.

We bring the kids on vacation and bring someone with us so DH and I can slip away for alone time.

DH suggested we bring MIL with us but I don't want to travel with MIL.

I actually suggested that DH stay behind with MIL and baby and I will travel with our older children alone.

Don't know if it matters but I have awful pregnancies. I have been sick and puking these past 9 months. I'm so uncomfortable. I just want to lay out at the beach and relax for a few days. Our kids are in elementary school and awesome to travel with nowadays. They can spend a few hours at kids club while I hit the spa. It sounds lovely.

Troll

I'm assuming that if you have enough money to support both sets of grandparents "generously," then you are also mature and educated enough to know where babies come from and how to prevent them.

You are depressed, and sick. I get that. Please see your OB or midwife about it. But what you are suggesting is a genuinely bad idea. A baby that young is too small and too needy to be left alone with grandparents. Wait a few months and THEN leave your six month or nine month old with grandparents.

We are not saying never leave your infant. We're saying that what you are proposing is unfair to your child, to the grandparents, and something you'll likely regret once you get on a low dose of Prozac.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

I know I am being selfish and I want to be selfish for once. I have given up so much for these kids. Pregnancy has been awful. I already feel like I need a break from this unborn child.

Ok, but this is your third child. Presumably you wanted a third child. It's not your baby's fault that you're tired or sick or whatever. I think it's super important for a mom to take care of herself. But leaving a newborn with its grandparents so you can bake in the sun can't be the best way. Why not leave the baby with a sitter and make a daylong trip to the spa? Or walk around downtown all alone, go to book shops, museums, take a nap?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are you having a third baby? It sounds as though raising two kids has been difficult enough. I'm honestly not trying to be snarky when I ask, but you sound done already. Personally, I would not leave a baby at that age for 100 different reasons. But if you feel the absolute need to get away, then perhaps you should do it - and also consider talking about these feelings with your doctor. You could be depressed, which is a condition not solved merely by a vacation.

I was just looking up prepartum depression. I am so over this pregnancy. Throwing up multiple times daily for 9 months has been absolutely awful. Everyday I feel more and more uncomfortable. When people complain of a stomach bug or flu, I almost feel angry because I feel worse daily than the worst sickness I felt prior to being pregnant with this baby. I can't wait for this baby to be out of me. I have never experienced depression before. I don't know if I am actually depressed or just sick of being sick all the time. I hope for the baby's sake that once she is born, I will bond with her and not feel this way. As of now, I don't feel much attachment. I just want pregnancy to be over with.

Ok, you're understandably exhausted/fed up/ maybe depressed. Keep in mid, this will pass. I wouldn't book a big vacation now that you'll probably want to back out of later. That doesn't mean you can't take time off once baby arrives. I'd do it in shorter bits though.

Sorry but it's not normal human behavior for a new mother to leave a baby that young, loving grandparents or not. Your obviously having issues with parenting and maybe seek help. You wouldn't be the first mother with this problem.

Sure your going to see people here say go do it but that doesn't make it right.

2-3 months is a little young.. Maybe give yourself a day at a fabulous day spa or even a night away locally/semi locally at 2-3 months. And do the trip when the baby is 5+ months old.

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are you having a third baby? It sounds as though raising two kids has been difficult enough. I'm honestly not trying to be snarky when I ask, but you sound done already. Personally, I would not leave a baby at that age for 100 different reasons. But if you feel the absolute need to get away, then perhaps you should do it - and also consider talking about these feelings with your doctor. You could be depressed, which is a condition not solved merely by a vacation.

I was just looking up prepartum depression. I am so over this pregnancy. Throwing up multiple times daily for 9 months has been absolutely awful. Everyday I feel more and more uncomfortable. When people complain of a stomach bug or flu, I almost feel angry because I feel worse daily than the worst sickness I felt prior to being pregnant with this baby. I can't wait for this baby to be out of me. I have never experienced depression before. I don't know if I am actually depressed or just sick of being sick all the time. I hope for the baby's sake that once she is born, I will bond with her and not feel this way. As of now, I don't feel much attachment. I just want pregnancy to be over with.

OP, why are you having a third baby? It sounds as though raising two kids has been difficult enough. I'm honestly not trying to be snarky when I ask, but you sound done already. Personally, I would not leave a baby at that age for 100 different reasons. But if you feel the absolute need to get away, then perhaps you should do it - and also consider talking about these feelings with your doctor. You could be depressed, which is a condition not solved merely by a vacation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)

OP here. Grandparents are in good health, retired and want nothing more than to spend time with grandchildren. We also help support both sides of grandparents financially.

The bolded does not mean it's appropriate to throw a needy 2-3 month old at them. I'm beginning to think OP is a troll. She can't be this clueless. None of her posts are helping her position. Probably the same OP who was canceling Christmas for her kids and leaving them with a Jewish babysitter while she and DH went away.

And I definitely am not cancelling Christmas. Not sure which thread that is.

My birthday is coming up and DH actually wants to leave all THREE children with his mom. I thought that was too much but just the baby I thought was doable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)

OP here. Grandparents are in good health, retired and want nothing more than to spend time with grandchildren. We also help support both sides of grandparents financially.

The bolded does not mean it's appropriate to throw a needy 2-3 month old at them. I'm beginning to think OP is a troll. She can't be this clueless. None of her posts are helping her position. Probably the same OP who was canceling Christmas for her kids and leaving them with a Jewish babysitter while she and DH went away.

Not a troll. Just a miserable 9m pregnant mom. We should be on some tropical island now but zika is everywhere tropical so we are stuck home. Today was first day of winter break and it was a looooong day. I'm finding joy in researching vacations but baby brings back bad memories of when we previously travelled with a 3m old. So much gear. So much hassle. No fun.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)

OP here. Grandparents are in good health, retired and want nothing more than to spend time with grandchildren. We also help support both sides of grandparents financially.

The bolded does not mean it's appropriate to throw a needy 2-3 month old at them. I'm beginning to think OP is a troll. She can't be this clueless. None of her posts are helping her position. Probably the same OP who was canceling Christmas for her kids and leaving them with a Jewish babysitter while she and DH went away.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)

OP here. Grandparents are in good health, retired and want nothing more than to spend time with grandchildren. We also help support both sides of grandparents financially.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

I know I am being selfish and I want to be selfish for once. I have given up so much for these kids. Pregnancy has been awful. I already feel like I need a break from this unborn child.

If you need a break this badly, take it. The baby will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

Not OP but some g/ps don't mind. They would actually insist on keeping the baby(my friend's mom will)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound selfish.

2-3months is v young. The baby is nursing/feeding around the clock.
How can an older g/p manage that?

I would.feel less.judgy if your child was 6months or older.

Take grandparents with you .

I know I am being selfish and I want to be selfish for once. I have given up so much for these kids. Pregnancy has been awful. I already feel like I need a break from this unborn child.

You made a conscious decision to have children and you knew what came with having them. Stop trying to paint yourself like some martyr. You aren't going to win any points with us by making posts like this.