Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave him a hall pass and then took it back Sex never didn't bother me. I had a bunch of rules. Always use condoms, no bringing her back to your house, NO GIFTS, no dates at night, no falling in love. I don't want to know about it. Breaking of any of the rules I would consider it a betrayal.
An acquaintance I had meets men in bars, and online for sex. They use condoms but if it's not great she has them go down. She never tells them she has herpes. She once told someone and he rejected her, made her feel like she had aids. After that she refuses to disclose it.
Another friend recently gothat an sti. I told him i doubt her had dental dam next to his condoms and the health implications terrify me.

I don't think he ever took me up on it. But as a man who used to be really promiscuous I think it made him feel better knowing the option was there.
Monogamy is hard for some folks.

This is kind of a weird stipulation in the context of a hall pass that basically dooms the scenario to failure from the get-go. The whole point of the hall pass - in my opinion - is that you're mature adults and able to talk about it; it's not supposed to be a threat to your marriage.
All the other rules are fairly normal, IMHO.

We have discussed it and continue to discuss it. But I disagree I don't need to know the details. Oh, and I had a stipulation of std testing every 3 months ( even though he's be using condoms)

Anonymous wrote:I gave him a hall pass and then took it back Sex never didn't bother me. I had a bunch of rules. Always use condoms, no bringing her back to your house, NO GIFTS, no dates at night, no falling in love. I don't want to know about it. Breaking of any of the rules I would consider it a betrayal.
An acquaintance I had meets men in bars, and online for sex. They use condoms but if it's not great she has them go down. She never tells them she has herpes. She once told someone and he rejected her, made her feel like she had aids. After that she refuses to disclose it.
Another friend recently gothat an sti. I told him i doubt her had dental dam next to his condoms and the health implications terrify me.

I don't think he ever took me up on it. But as a man who used to be really promiscuous I think it made him feel better knowing the option was there.
Monogamy is hard for some folks.

This is kind of a weird stipulation in the context of a hall pass that basically dooms the scenario to failure from the get-go. The whole point of the hall pass - in my opinion - is that you're mature adults and able to talk about it; it's not supposed to be a threat to your marriage.
All the other rules are fairly normal, IMHO.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave him a hall pass and then took it back Sex never didn't bother me. I had a bunch of rules. Always use condoms, no bringing her back to your house, NO GIFTS, no dates at night, no falling in love. I don't want to know about it. Breaking of any of the rules I would consider it a betrayal.
An acquaintance I had meets men in bars, and online for sex. They use condoms but if it's not great she has them go down. She never tells them she has herpes. She once told someone and he rejected her, made her feel like she had aids. After that she refuses to disclose it.
Another friend recently gothat an sti. I told him i doubt her had dental dam next to his condoms and the health implications terrify me.

I don't think he ever took me up on it. But as a man who used to be really promiscuous I think it made him feel better knowing the option was there.
Monogamy is hard for some folks.

I think the bolded would make it pretty difficult for a hall pass unless he was using prostitutes. I'm not married and the easiest way to hook up with someone is to meet up for drinks after work or on a weekend night and if we hit it off go from there.

Fair point. My thought was that he has a very flexible schedule. I also didn't want his "dates" with someone else to take away time from us.

Anonymous wrote:I gave him a hall pass and then took it back Sex never didn't bother me. I had a bunch of rules. Always use condoms, no bringing her back to your house, NO GIFTS, no dates at night, no falling in love. I don't want to know about it. Breaking of any of the rules I would consider it a betrayal.
An acquaintance I had meets men in bars, and online for sex. They use condoms but if it's not great she has them go down. She never tells them she has herpes. She once told someone and he rejected her, made her feel like she had aids. After that she refuses to disclose it.
Another friend recently gothat an sti. I told him i doubt her had dental dam next to his condoms and the health implications terrify me.

I don't think he ever took me up on it. But as a man who used to be really promiscuous I think it made him feel better knowing the option was there.
Monogamy is hard for some folks.

I think the bolded would make it pretty difficult for a hall pass unless he was using prostitutes. I'm not married and the easiest way to hook up with someone is to meet up for drinks after work or on a weekend night and if we hit it off go from there.

* sex didn't
*recently got
*I doubt he had dental dams

Sorry for the typos I'm on my phone

I gave him a hall pass and then took it back Sex never didn't bother me. I had a bunch of rules. Always use condoms, no bringing her back to your house, NO GIFTS, no dates at night, no falling in love. I don't want to know about it. Breaking of any of the rules I would consider it a betrayal.
An acquaintance I had meets men in bars, and online for sex. They use condoms but if it's not great she has them go down. She never tells them she has herpes. She once told someone and he rejected her, made her feel like she had aids. After that she refuses to disclose it.
Another friend recently gothat an sti. I told him i doubt her had dental dam next to his condoms and the health implications terrify me.

I don't think he ever took me up on it. But as a man who used to be really promiscuous I think it made him feel better knowing the option was there.
Monogamy is hard for some folks.

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

I am fascinated that you are so privy to these intimate details of their life.

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

remember the 100+ pages of the "Wolf" (maybe a couple of years ago). be careful what you wish/ask for.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

Just to add that for the moment it seems to be working great, the wife is very much in love with her DH, the other one is really just a crush.

How do you know she is very much in love with her DH? Not doubting that the other is a crush, btw.

Anonymous wrote:a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

Just to add that for the moment it seems to be working great, the wife is very much in love with her DH, the other one is really just a crush.

a couple I know gave a hall pass to each other 4 months ago. They seem to have a very good relationship, in love, have sex and all, but have been together for 20 years (met at 18) and they both feel like they would be fine with the other experimenting as long as they didn't hear about it.

I know the wife has acted on it already. She is the one who asked for it. and that's because she had a crush on someone, kissed that person already but didn't want to go further without first getting "pre approval". so for people who say "when he/she offers a HP it is because he/she cheats" there seems to be some truth to it.

she was surprised her husband accepted so easily. Now I wonder if he has someone . I am watching them experiment with this with a lot of interest. would love to see it work...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or it means we are solid and both agree to sidekicks.

Couples who are solid do not need or want "sidekicks."

Or maybe your definition of solid is a couple who are only staying together for finances or for "the sake of the kids." With none of those pesky extras like commitment or communication. Who needs all that hard work, right?

Not the PP you quote, but you sound defensive. Why? Some couples feel like they aren't concerned about their love ones being intimate with others. I admit that it seems unusual, but if they can pull it off without getting jealous (and that's a big if), that's pretty impressive and definitely a sign that they are confident in each other and in their relationship.

Wife gave me one a long time ago, we were dating. She was never around due to family issues and other things like work. Her drive toppled off a cliff and there was no sex - or very little. I had a good female friend I hung out with, she was amazing, but it was just friendship. We'd workout together and go out a lot on the weekends buecause my wife was never around. She said, if you want to go explore and have fun with her and do "everything" with her you can, I'll be here for you when you come back. I had free pass to bang this other woman. Never did, should have. I wasn't particularly interested in her, bit she was a sexy chick and I realize my mistake. Anyways, probably better I didn't.

Anonymous wrote:Or it means we are solid and both agree to sidekicks.

Couples who are solid do not need or want "sidekicks."

Or maybe your definition of solid is a couple who are only staying together for finances or for "the sake of the kids." With none of those pesky extras like commitment or communication. Who needs all that hard work, right?

Anonymous wrote:Gotten one, haven't used it yet. Trying to get over being depressed that he's happy to outsource sex and intimacy. (no sex for 2 yrs, due to his low drive)

Interesting perspective. It seems to me he is really caring to allow you to meet needs he can't meet.

Most guys would be thrilled with said hall pass.