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Anonymous wrote:I do have a friend who was chubby in college and now looks fabulous in her 30's. She watches what she eats, works out and had some plastic surgery done. I don't think that is your situation though.

"late bloomer" doesn't mean what you think it means

Well what does it mean?

Anonymous wrote:Sorry hit submit too soon! Anyway, while I would like a LTR, I'm not finding many guys that are comfortable with me not having relationship experience. I'm not a virgin, so sex isn't an issue. I just don't understand how a relationship works and I'm having a lot of unrealistic expectations of what things are supposed to happen and it's leading to disappointment. I've always lagged in the social department as I didn't really make friends until I was in my 20s. What advice do you all have for me?

If sex isn't an issue, you're fine. I didn't marry until 31 becasue I wanted to remain a virgin until I married and no man would agree to that.

Seriously, if you'll have sex, you're fine.

I didn't really have a relationship until meeting Dh in early 30s. My college roommate was the same. Online dating was a godsend for me. Now in my 40s I get hit on more than in my 20s, not sure why.

Is there any chance that you are a lesbian?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do have a friend who was chubby in college and now looks fabulous in her 30's. She watches what she eats, works out and had some plastic surgery done. I don't think that is your situation though.

"late bloomer" doesn't mean what you think it means

I thought I was a late bloomer. I was a nerd in high school, had bad skin and braces. Attended ivy league and was considered cute for my school. When I started my young professional career, I looked good in a suit and was a lot more confident. I also thought guys who were nerds in high school but were successful after graduation were considered late bloomers.

I don't think OP sounds like a late bloomer. Sounds like she hasn't bloomed yet and probably never will.

Anonymous wrote:I do have a friend who was chubby in college and now looks fabulous in her 30's. She watches what she eats, works out and had some plastic surgery done. I don't think that is your situation though.

"late bloomer" doesn't mean what you think it means

I do have a friend who was chubby in college and now looks fabulous in her 30's. She watches what she eats, works out and had some plastic surgery done. I don't think that is your situation though.

I always thought a late bloomer was someone who bloomed in college and was probably awkward in junior high/high school. Sorry, OP, you are heading toward old maid territory.

Anonymous wrote:I am but it has more to do with being an introvert than social skills. I'm quite shy and reserved but can be funny and charming if I feel like it. But I usually don't since I'm so drained from working. I just want to go home, relax, and be alone. Dating is just too exhausting to even think about. And it's hard to put something new in my routine. And I guess I'm also lazy.

My perfect match would be someone I could date once a month (or every few months!). I'm totally okay with my choices and accept the fact that unless I decide to become more social, I'll end up alone. Which I'm sort of fine with. Eternal peace and quiet.

Why would anyone sign up for that? Seriously? If a guy/girl wants to get into a long term relationship they don't want once every other month.

Anonymous wrote:After 6 months, it should be a serious relationship. Why do you feel that it wasn't? Just missing the emotional support or something else?

I'm the PP you responded to, OP, and I also want to know this.

By 30, a six-month relationship is generally a serious one. What prevented yours from being so?

Sorry I misunderstood about you not wanting to date. I'll tell you I'm a huge introvert and spent 9 years virtually single before I felt like dating. And by "felt like dating" I mean "had the energy to force myself to go on dates." I met my husband very quickly and now we stay home together most of the time and it's perfect. But boy, getting out of the house to go on those first dates was a challenge.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 30 year old female and I'm somewhat embarrassed to admit that I've never been in a serious relationship. I've been told that i'm attractive, but a bit socially awkward and quiet. I have been on dates via online dating, but nothing panned out.

Get rolling before you transition from a "late bloomer" to a cougar

That's what I am afraid of.

I am a man. I was not in a real relationship before I was in the early 30's.

I did not have the emotional maturity to take the risk to ask a woman out. The only girl I flirted with before 20 I had met on vacation where there was no chance for anything beyond 1-2 days.

I have been married for 18 years now.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 30 year old female and I'm somewhat embarrassed to admit that I've never been in a serious relationship. I've been told that i'm attractive, but a bit socially awkward and quiet. I have been on dates via online dating, but nothing panned out.

Get rolling before you transition from a "late bloomer" to a cougar

I know someone that got married very late in his 30's, and it was his first serious relationship.

Anonymous wrote:After 6 months, it should be a serious relationship. Why do you feel that it wasn't? Just missing the emotional support or something else?

Yes, my ex isn't emotionally mature, he reminds me of my younger brother. I think I would've enjoyed dating him if we met in college, but he's not a good fit for marriage or a LTR