Yes, you're all correct; she won't truly have rejected consumerism until she lives in a solar-powered Tiny House and hand-sews her clothing out of artisanal burlap sacks.

+2 I would be sad if my dd felt the need to buy old junk. Why does she need to buy anything?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be more proud if my daughter was a high earner who could afford expensive things.

+1

Anonymous wrote:As a teen my daughter was really status conscious. Everything had to be branded. Now she's a SAHM and displaying a gift for thrift shopping. She's requested handmade pillowcases from her aunt for Xmas for the children, based on their hobbies (trains and maps). I feel unaccountably proud.

I'm sorry, Op but I don't get the connection between your DD's consumerism and her present request for having her Aunt make the pillowcases? ( non-consumerism?)

To me, it seems like you are comparing apples and oranges. Does her Aunt even like making things? Even if that was so, it seems like that would be more work for the aunt and either way your DD is getting something for nothing ( ie when she was younger you bought her expensive name branded items) So, what is the difference?

I don't fault your DD for staying home but, I truly don't see where she deserves any praise for her current action. Seems like she can now brag to her friends that "her beloved aunt made these pillowcases for Larlo and Larla". In the meantime, I think you need a higher standards for your DD and for you to be "unaccountably proud she should actually do something worthy of being proud.

Anonymous wrote:I woul be more proud if my daughter was a high earner who could afford expensive things.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teen my daughter was really status conscious. Everything had to be branded. Now she's a SAHM and displaying a gift for thrift shopping. She's requested handmade pillowcases from her aunt for Xmas for the children, based on their hobbies (trains and maps). I feel unaccountably proud.

If she is thrift shopping, she is still shopping. Handmade pillow cases are special and still very status conscious. Your post is lame. She probably got it from you.

Yeah, there's something wrong with you, pp. Def.

Maybe looking at the videos where the junk we all have thrown away is all over the place.
I have more crap in my house right now than I did over 20 years growing up in SU. It's possible to live with less stuff.
One has to do things that matter and are of value rather than buy things.

Doesn't sound like a shift from consumerism at all. Sounds like she's just changed her taste and now buys or makes other items. Sounds like you were judging her previously and now you approve because she's buying or making something you'd buy or make.