I think some people are loud due to the nature of their jobs. I am a teacher and I am sometimes reminded by friends and family to "turn off my teacher voice."

My mil. So freakin loud.

My cousins are like this. My aunt and uncle were like this. So they grew up in a loud house and became loud people. It is exhausting to be around them for long periods of time.

I also came from a loud big household but no one individual was a loud talker, so we are quieter. So I think some of it is how you were taught.

I work in an open environment, in a room with about 40 people in it. The loud talkers are the worst. Even headphones can't block some of them out.

I am naturally loud. I grew up in a household where multiple people spoke at once and you were often involved in 3-4 conversations at once with different people. Yes, I know that I am loud and have been shushed regularly. The problem is that this is my default and I have to concentrate literally constantly to modulate my voice quieter so that it stays quieter. Otherwise, I'll be quieter for a few sentences and as my mind passes on to other things, including the conversation, then my voice goes back to loud. I'm sorry, but that's the way it is.

Conversely, there are a lot of timid and quieter speakers that I know that speak so softly and then get frustrated when people don't notice or hear them speaking, or don't think the person is talking to them. So, they are asked to speak up/louder and they'll do so for a few sentences and then go quieter again and have to be reminded to speak up or be ignored. These people are especially annoying on telecons or just regular phone conversations where you can't hear them over the phone. It works both ways. And frankly, I find the quiet speakers to be more annoying, but I try to be accommodating to both loud and quiet speakers where possible and to accept the fact that some people speak louder, some speak softer and try to work with each person to communicate.

OP have you been screened for Asperger's? Not being snarky. I understand sensitivity to noise is just one factor.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also very loud when i speak, especially on the phone. I don't realize it until someone points it out and then I feel bad. I had a coworker who would make a big production of turning her music up every time I got on the phone. She never once approached me and said could you keep it down (which I try to do when i remember and I dont mind when people remind me). She pissed me off so much i didn't even try to be quiet around her.

Remind yourself. You are an adult. Place a sticky note on your phone that reads "QUIET."

Not this pp, but you are an adult, too. Deal with it. Not everyone is you. You need to grow up and realize.

Anonymous wrote:I am also very loud when i speak, especially on the phone. I don't realize it until someone points it out and then I feel bad. I had a coworker who would make a big production of turning her music up every time I got on the phone. She never once approached me and said could you keep it down (which I try to do when i remember and I dont mind when people remind me). She pissed me off so much i didn't even try to be quiet around her.

Remind yourself. You are an adult. Place a sticky note on your phone that reads "QUIET."

My friend's son is LOUD. Everything he says is at top volume. She is constantly reminding him to speak quietly- and he does (which means he can) for one minute and then it's back on. He's 5 so I hope he grows out of it.

I am also very loud when i speak, especially on the phone. I don't realize it until someone points it out and then I feel bad. I had a coworker who would make a big production of turning her music up every time I got on the phone. She never once approached me and said could you keep it down (which I try to do when i remember and I dont mind when people remind me). She pissed me off so much i didn't even try to be quiet around her.

A lot of folks do have hearing issues OP or they are from NYC where people have to scream to be heard. I love NYC...nothing against it bu t people are super loud there

Anonymous wrote:Some people don't realize they are loud. It is how they talk, and the people that know them and love them don't mind, so you don't matter. Are we clear now, OP?

The people that know them and don't love them DO mind. It's annoying.

OP, it is to bother you. The secret is out. SHHHH.......

I don't think the OP is talking about kids or people with exceptionalities. I cannot stand loud people. Loud women are the worst. It's that grating yankee combination of fast talking and loud. It makes my teeth hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:I am normally loud. Very loud. It is my default. I literally cannot help it. My husband shushes me all the time. It's just who I am.

Really? Have you tried? Why do you do it?

I could help it but I'd have to make a concerted effort for every word I said. It's like me telling you have to whisper all day long. Sure, you could do it, but not only would it be a pain in the ass to keep trying, inevitably you would slip back into your normal speech pattern at some point.

I don't "do it" on purpose. It's just who I am.

+1

Everyone is out to get OP, dontchaknow? LOL.