Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 22:15     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?

Why do you think books are cheap?

Is it because you equate money spent with love or self-worth or whatever? Is it because you're a redneck and don't read?

You know that some first editions are worth more than you and all you that you possess? Just as an FYI, of course, your boyfriend probably didn't waste his hard-earned money on a first edition for a gold-digger like you.


doodlebug
Post 12/08/2016 22:09     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ex bought me a tacky candy dish one year.... He had not so subtly hinted that he wanted a fancy coat for months and I got it for him. I tossed the candy dish in the dumpster, it was so not me, after dating for 10 months he was clueless and cheap. That was the beginning of the end.
well, I hope you opened it to make sure something else wasn't tucked inside before you clogged the landfill with it.


Opened a tacky candy dish?
uh, did he just hand you the tacky candy dish or did it come in some type of box/bag/wrapping?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 19:53     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
Anonymous wrote:I think you just have to like, be up front about your expectations. My DH had different ideas about christmas going in, would buy me like, SUPER practical stuff I needed.

I had to be like, 'christmas is fun! I understand you're putting thought into these gifts but they seem clinical and not like there's any feeling, can you try to think of something that will make me feel like you care and spent some time thinking about it?'

After that he has been an a+ gift giver, you just have to explain where you're coming from and what you're looking for.


Really, you were like that?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 19:50     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
I don't mind inexpensive gifts. In fact, as a bargain/thrift store shopper, I love a great deal!

But, I don't like cheap gifts. Like, don't buy me a scented lotion/bath set from the dollar store. Not because it's a dollar but because the quality will be poor.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 19:26     Subject: Re:Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
This is communication and expectation setting 101 for relationships. Agree a budget so that your expectations are aligned with each other. That way someone doesn't end up with $600 of cool stuff and the other person gets a pair of socks or a couple of books.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 19:21     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
OP, talk to your fiancé. He might just be practical or his family does low-key gifts. But run from anyone who's actually stingy - they'll be stingy with emotions and other ways too.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 16:24     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ex bought me a tacky candy dish one year.... He had not so subtly hinted that he wanted a fancy coat for months and I got it for him. I tossed the candy dish in the dumpster, it was so not me, after dating for 10 months he was clueless and cheap. That was the beginning of the end.
well, I hope you opened it to make sure something else wasn't tucked inside before you clogged the landfill with it.


Opened a tacky candy dish?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 16:22     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
What did you get him, OP?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 16:20     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
Anonymous wrote:My ex bought me a tacky candy dish one year.... He had not so subtly hinted that he wanted a fancy coat for months and I got it for him. I tossed the candy dish in the dumpster, it was so not me, after dating for 10 months he was clueless and cheap. That was the beginning of the end.
well, I hope you opened it to make sure something else wasn't tucked inside before you clogged the landfill with it.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 16:16     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
My ex bought me a tacky candy dish one year.... He had not so subtly hinted that he wanted a fancy coat for months and I got it for him. I tossed the candy dish in the dumpster, it was so not me, after dating for 10 months he was clueless and cheap. That was the beginning of the end.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2016 16:09     Subject: Can you ever be too cheap for christmas presents?
Tell him what you want him to get you op.

I would have been thrilled with carefully selected books. He may come from a family where they don't give extravagant gifts or give more practical things. I love it when my DH gave me things I needed and made life more comfortable, while we were dating. Had no desire for expensive jewelry. It's how I knew he was the one!

Tell him what you want this year.