(or were you really commiserating? I'd rather be boring that a bitch like most DCUM posters! )

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH does the same thing. Also does it when the kids are up. When I say anything he gets defensive. I have given up and read a book.

Here is the typical DCUM response I'll say, since I brought up an entire thread on this a while back as my wife does this when we're out st dinner, in the car..etc

You're obviously boring and have nothing of value to say. You're obviously not interesting and he's bored with you as you're probably a boring person who rambles on about themselves.

So are you saying that, since your wife does this, that you are yourself boring and have nothing of value to say? I am sorry you have such a negative self-image. thanks, though, for making me literally laugh at the absurdity of your post.

Do what we did - give up social media. DW and I both dropped all of it except for a couple of facebook groups that I need for work and she needs for a hobby. Defriended every friend. It has been absolutely wonderful. No more comparing to other people, much less drama and no distractions when we are working on something else or spending time together. I realize that for a lot of people their life revolves around social media, but if you consider the benefits of cutting the cord I feel they really outweigh any of the drawbacks.

Anonymous wrote:My husband gets home from work, spends 30 min on his phone in the bathroom, eats the dinner I made him, plays on his phone until I have the kids ready for bed, reads them a story, then parks himself in front of the TV with his phone for the rest of the night. iPhone destroyed any semblance of a relationship between us.

No, the iPhone didn't--he did.

And if you haven't talked to him about this and asked him to be engaged with you and your family, you are a doormat and you are part of this problem.

My husband gets home from work, spends 30 min on his phone in the bathroom, eats the dinner I made him, plays on his phone until I have the kids ready for bed, reads them a story, then parks himself in front of the TV with his phone for the rest of the night. iPhone destroyed any semblance of a relationship between us.

Anonymous wrote:Is to sit in a room near me and read me things people post on Facebook.

It's maddening.

I asked her to stop and she got super pissed at me.

Start a conversation with her about something else.

Let me guess -- you don't actually want to talk at all, do you?

Some men are addicted to porn so....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've found the screen addiction to be much more prevalent among men esp fathers of young kids who want to do nothing at home.

[citation needed]

"Citation needed" PP - do you not realize how dumb you look every time you post that? This is DCUM, not a research paper. Not to mention that person opened with "I've found that..." We need to give sources for our personal experiences now? Sorry but that's not how it works. Your local library might offer courses on using citations and also internet etiquette - could be helpful for you!

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird. We sit in a room together and my H is reading... I use to do crosswords, Sudoku, look at recipes, plan meals and he was fine with it...

Now I do all that on my ipad and he is annoyed I am on my ipad... of course he is still reading a book.

What is it about ipads/phones that make men so crazy.

you may not recall, but there was probably conversation sprinkled in there. with the screen, there's zippo from the addict.

This is true.

Anonymous wrote:It's weird. We sit in a room together and my H is reading... I use to do crosswords, Sudoku, look at recipes, plan meals and he was fine with it...

Now I do all that on my ipad and he is annoyed I am on my ipad... of course he is still reading a book.

What is it about ipads/phones that make men so crazy.

you may not recall, but there was probably conversation sprinkled in there. with the screen, there's zippo from the addict.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her to put the phone down and talk and hang out? What was her response? I don't really have this problem in my current relationship but the last guy I dated, when we went to dinner for the first time he made me lock my phone up in the car. (Not in a nasty, controlling way, but in a sweet way, and with a mischievous smile on his face.) It was very refreshing and we had a wonderful dinner with no distractions! Why don't you suggest a date night like that?

So you had no way to contact someone if you needed to get away? No thank you, I have no problem keeping my phone in my bag and not looking at it during dinner. I don't care how sweetly he was smiling, that demand would've creeped me out.

Are you serious? It's dinner at a public restaurant, not a rendezvous in the woods. There really would be no one unneeded to talk to that couldn't wait an hour. Somehow, we made it thousands of years before this decade without a phone attached to our body at all times. And it was someone I've known for many years. You sound a little unhinged and I certainly wouldn't want to date someone like you who can't devote attention to one person for one hour.

It's weird. We sit in a room together and my H is reading... I use to do crosswords, Sudoku, look at recipes, plan meals and he was fine with it...

Now I do all that on my ipad and he is annoyed I am on my ipad... of course he is still reading a book.

What is it about ipads/phones that make men so crazy.

Anonymous wrote:I've found the screen addiction to be much more prevalent among men esp fathers of young kids who want to do nothing at home.

Similarly, I have found that social media addiction, over planning, and general avoidance of men for anything that is not a woman's idea to be prevalent among women, especially moms in their 30s and 40s, who want nothing to do with their husbands.

Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her to put the phone down and talk and hang out? What was her response? I don't really have this problem in my current relationship but the last guy I dated, when we went to dinner for the first time he made me lock my phone up in the car. (Not in a nasty, controlling way, but in a sweet way, and with a mischievous smile on his face.) It was very refreshing and we had a wonderful dinner with no distractions! Why don't you suggest a date night like that?

So you had no way to contact someone if you needed to get away? No thank you, I have no problem keeping my phone in my bag and not looking at it during dinner. I don't care how sweetly he was smiling, that demand would've creeped me out.

Anonymous wrote:I've found the screen addiction to be much more prevalent among men esp fathers of young kids who want to do nothing at home.

[citation needed]