BobRoss wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I disagree. It was sex. Get over it.

I don't need to get over anything. Try being a bit less rude. I guess you're one of the growing numbers that think ghosting is fine? It doesn't matter if they had only been to lunch once. Simply ignoring contacts until the other person 'goes away' is anti-social, immature, and frankly, weak.

So you're supposed to write a goodbye letter to someone you went to lunch with once? LOL. Thanks for the laugh. Welcome to the new world. Leave your entitlement at the door.

Anonymous wrote:^I disagree. It was sex. Get over it.

I don't need to get over anything. Try being a bit less rude. I guess you're one of the growing numbers that think ghosting is fine? It doesn't matter if they had only been to lunch once. Simply ignoring contacts until the other person 'goes away' is anti-social, immature, and frankly, weak.

^I disagree. It was sex. Get over it.

Anonymous wrote:

BobRoss wrote:So I'm going to step in OP's side here. They had sex 4 times. No, that doesn't make her 'easy', but it does elevate whatever relationship above superficial. Doesn't anyone here think she should have let him know directly that she wasn't interested in taking things further? The fact that they had multiple dates and sex multiple times would warrant at the very least a quick phone call to let him know...

Nope. Sex 4 times means jack shit. I would never feel I owed a man anything after that. It's only after you have the "what are we" conversation that you can expect monogamy or a "break up"

Don't like it? Should have asked for exclusivity earlier. Them's the breaks.

It's not about being exclusive. It's about common courtesy. Enough transpired between the two of them that she should have had enough backbone to be direct. She knew he was interested in continuing. She could have just called or even been lame and sent a text. I don't get it.

BobRoss wrote:So I'm going to step in OP's side here. They had sex 4 times. No, that doesn't make her 'easy', but it does elevate whatever relationship above superficial. Doesn't anyone here think she should have let him know directly that she wasn't interested in taking things further? The fact that they had multiple dates and sex multiple times would warrant at the very least a quick phone call to let him know...

Nope. Sex 4 times means jack shit. I would never feel I owed a man anything after that. It's only after you have the "what are we" conversation that you can expect monogamy or a "break up"

Don't like it? Should have asked for exclusivity earlier. Them's the breaks.

So I'm going to step in on OP's side here. They had sex 4 times. No, that doesn't make her 'easy', but it does elevate whatever relationship they had to above superficial. Doesn't anyone here think she should have let him know directly that she wasn't interested in taking things further? The fact that they had multiple dates and sex multiple times would warrant at the very least a quick phone call to let him know...

She doesn't want you. Stop trying to come up with these absurd excuses and accept it.

Three possibilities (1) her phone is dead (2) she is dead or (3) your relationship is dead. Pick a number.

OP next time keep your gender neutral. A woman can never be a player or use you.

She found someone with more money.

Stop calling and texting. You're bugging her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You feel like you got played because you thought it would be casual, then you began to like her after she slept with you four times and now she won't respond just because you want her to?

Sometimes the girl next door is easy. Sounds like you are too. Move on.

Why is someone " easy" because they have casual sex. You're an idiot.

Different poster here. In college (and beyond) - this was the absolute DEFINITION. No thrill there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You feel like you got played because you thought it would be casual, then you began to like her after she slept with you four times and now she won't respond just because you want her to?

Sometimes the girl next door is easy. Sounds like you are too. Move on.

Why is someone " easy" because they have casual sex. You're an idiot.

That's pretty much the definition of "easy."

You sound very inexperienced. A person having casual sex a couple times or with a couple of people does not make them " easy".

It sure does. Agree with PP. She was easy.

Anonymous wrote:She's just not that into you.

This. You didn't get played at all. How exactly do you think she played you? What did she take from you? How did she manipulate you and for what gains?
You weren't played, she just didn't want to date you seriously. That's allowed.

You would have been played only if she violated some terms of the relationship. There were none, so you weren't played. If you, say, I only want to have sex with you if we stick with this relationship for a few months, then you would have been played.