Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of pictures are taken all the time. Sometimes it's a line of multi-generation women, and other times it's a line of multi-generation men. The DIL was out of line and maybe she finally figured out that her child does not get called for every single family picture.

DIL's daughter is every bit as much of a part of a generational line of females as the other granddaughter.

How small of you, OP. It would have cost you nothing to simply reply, "Looking forward to my next visit with Little Larla!"

No, DIL's daughter is not part of that generational line and didn't belong in the picture.

+1

OP is right. DIL should take a photo with her grandparent, parent, herself, and her child. DIL is not OP's descendant.

So leave DIL out! But the other granddaughter IS her female descendant!

U? Not I.

Anonymous wrote:You were rude.

This. She's still your granddaughter why would I you say that???

OP, I understand what you meant, but I also think your DIL sounds a bit upset. I understand why, though I don't necessarily agree with her POV. It sounds like just one of those things where no harm was meant, but harm was taken. You can't really control the latter.

But it's possible she feels that you are playing favorites with your other GDD in other ways or that your reply was somehow hurtful/insensitive. It's worth examining whether that's the case and addressing it if it is.

From what you've written, I think you might have come across as insensitive when replying to her post. She was not initially passive-aggressive. She straightforwardly told you she was hurt by her DD's exclusion. You essentially explained to her she was wrong to be hurt. You could, instead, have explained to her the logic of the photo and assured her you did not intend to exclude your other GDD or hurt her. You could even have offered some other way of acknowledging both of your GDDs.

What lack of grace, OP. "Can't wait to see you and Sally for Thanksgiving!" You didn't have to defend or explain, but wow...you could have so easily just said something warm and positive.

Go check your photos and count how many of each grand daughter. Then see if you can explain. It without sounding defensive? I bet you ca t.

I didn't realize there were so many people who don't understand how this works. It's okay if your kid's snotty face isn't in every cherished family photo. What a bunch of morons!

Anonymous wrote:I remember my FIL making a big production out of a picture that included his wife and two daughters, but not his only grandchild (a girl). In fact, he insisted on no one else being in the picture. He later posted it online with the caption "my girls". Now I could have understood if he had left out his wife, but why pick the older generation but not the youngest? I clearly understood how he perceived me from that day forward. I never forgot it. Until then, I loved him with all my heart.

You pitched a fit because your FIL wanted a picture of his wife and kids and you hold it against him for the rest of time because your snowflake couldn't be in this one picture? Let the man have a picture of his kids. What a rotten DIL you are.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of pictures are taken all the time. Sometimes it's a line of multi-generation women, and other times it's a line of multi-generation men. The DIL was out of line and maybe she finally figured out that her child does not get called for every single family picture.

DIL's daughter is every bit as much of a part of a generational line of females as the other granddaughter.

How small of you, OP. It would have cost you nothing to simply reply, "Looking forward to my next visit with Little Larla!"

No, DIL's daughter is not part of that generational line and didn't belong in the picture.

+1

OP is right. DIL should take a photo with her grandparent, parent, herself, and her child. DIL is not OP's descendant.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of pictures are taken all the time. Sometimes it's a line of multi-generation women, and other times it's a line of multi-generation men. The DIL was out of line and maybe she finally figured out that her child does not get called for every single family picture.

DIL's daughter is every bit as much of a part of a generational line of females as the other granddaughter.

How small of you, OP. It would have cost you nothing to simply reply, "Looking forward to my next visit with Little Larla!"

No, DIL's daughter is not part of that generational line and didn't belong in the picture.

I remember my FIL making a big production out of a picture that included his wife and two daughters, but not his only grandchild (a girl). In fact, he insisted on no one else being in the picture. He later posted it online with the caption "my girls". Now I could have understood if he had left out his wife, but why pick the older generation but not the youngest? I clearly understood how he perceived me from that day forward. I never forgot it. Until then, I loved him with all my heart.

Anonymous wrote:I guess a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of pictures are taken all the time. Sometimes it's a line of multi-generation women, and other times it's a line of multi-generation men. The DIL was out of line and maybe she finally figured out that her child does not get called for every single family picture.

DIL's daughter is every bit as much of a part of a generational line of females as the other granddaughter.

How small of you, OP. It would have cost you nothing to simply reply, "Looking forward to my next visit with Little Larla!"

Anonymous wrote:It was a generational shot, minus one. It's hurtful when grandparents play favorites. Signed, DIL who's kid is in second place.

You're too stupid to realize that picture was for a line of direct descendant women, not a picture of every female in the family.

Millennials VERY quick to break family ties. Be careful.

I guess a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of pictures are taken all the time. Sometimes it's a line of multi-generation women, and other times it's a line of multi-generation men. The DIL was out of line and maybe she finally figured out that her child does not get called for every single family picture.