I would never let DD attend a sleepover if I did not have a good sense of the parents. You should set this as a ground rule with DD. It's not enough to have a nice telephone call with the parents in my experience. You really need to do some kind of activity with the parents so they are distracted and do not just try to make a good impression so their DS/DD can spend time with your DS/DD. I suggest a trivia night, where you can ask personal questions in between trivia questions. They will already be used to answering questions so you are halfway there. Ask an easy one, like "would you ever let your DD play with guns?" and then after the next trivia question follow up with a real question like " would you ever let your DD do lots of illegal drugs?" You can really get the measure of a person's character using this method.

she wants to make out with her friend's older bros.

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Anonymous wrote:With two teenage potential rapists in the house? No Way.

I'm sorry but if that is how you view the world, you are going to have a long miserable life.

To refer to every male as a potential rapist is equivalent to person as a potential murder. While technically true, its stupid beyond words.

Seriously OP even if you met the parents more you think you could reliably identify if one of their family is a predator? Living life so paranoid will give your kid anxiety.

Anonymous wrote:No. Always NO to any sleepover.

Why?

No. Always NO to any sleepover.

Anonymous wrote:With two teenage potential rapists in the house? No Way.

I'm sorry but if that is how you view the world, you are going to have a long miserable life.

To refer to every male as a potential rapist is equivalent to person as a potential murder. While technically true, its stupid beyond words.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you stay home? It sounds like you have some beef with these working parents; when do you meet other parents, I assume weekend of evening get together would work for them too. Your story is very weird, why do they have a nanny for a HS, MS, and a 10 year old...

Because they cant drive maybe? and need help with homework and dinner?

*BUT* a nanny for a high schooler??

Why are you focusing on this point, when no one even said the nanny was "for the high schooler"?

Even if the nanny does help with the high schooler, who the hell cares? Could be a 14-year-old freshman who needs transportation.

Calm down.

With two teenage potential rapists in the house? No Way.

Anonymous wrote:No. A sleepover friend's dad tried to sexually assault me while he sent her to the corner store to pick up ice cream. I have a close friend that was assaulted by teen brother of a friend. I don't allow sleepovers unless I know the family pretty well or for slumber parties with multiples and scouts, school and church outings that had multiple adults present.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I slept over at friend's houses for years and am grateful that nothing ever happened to me. I was always with my friend, there was never a situation that one left the other alone. Maybe if we teach our kids to stick with their friends this won't happen? Just trying to brainstorm as my dd ventures into sleepover age.