Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had sex for the first time in 10 months? That is pretty horrible. No amount of excuses can make that acceptable. Odds are, he is banging someone else. No sex for 9 months during pregnancy and then no sex 10 months after that?

I'm so tired of responses like this. MANY people can go without sex and not "bang someone else." Marriages are long, dry spells are not the end of the world as long as they don't become the norm.

If people ignore the dumb responses instead of responding, they will eventually stop, or at least slow down. It is an obvious troll post.

Anonymous wrote:You had sex for the first time in 10 months? That is pretty horrible. No amount of excuses can make that acceptable. Odds are, he is banging someone else. No sex for 9 months during pregnancy and then no sex 10 months after that?

I'm so tired of responses like this. MANY people can go without sex and not "bang someone else." Marriages are long, dry spells are not the end of the world as long as they don't become the norm.

Just do it when you can. Quickies, BJs anything you can get.

You need to make sex a job and a priority as much as your other work. Cut back on the other work if necessary. We make it a priority to do it to it, whether we want to or not. That increases the times we want to do it.

You have to work at it. You don't sound like you are putting any effort into your relationship! You need to start having sex at least once a week and having a weekly date night if you can. If you can't hire a babysitter, plan a nice evening at home and put the baby to bed early. In the beginning, you're going to need to consciously try to reconnect. After some time, it will start to feel more effortless.