Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a sad excuse for a Dad

Love my kids, just frustrated. I look around and don't work with anyone from these mediocre colleges. And the inability to pursue a STEM at a crappy school just exacerbates the already bleak outlook.

You are still a sad excuse for a dad.

90% of my rich friends went to no name schools.

Did you go to a good college because you ability to think critically is lacking.

Anonymous wrote:Without naming college names, the prospect of writing a $30,000 check for each of the next four or five years for a place that is pretty much open door for UMC students troubles me. Feels like parents are boxed in a corner even if our children haven't earned it. We're socially pressured to buy our underachieving kids the equivalent of a new sports car. Hey, nice work getting all those inflated B-pluses, here's a new Porsche 911 ($120,000), pal. There's no chance my son is equipped to handle a STEM, so whatever lightweight degree he ekes out from an already subpar university makes for pretty dim prospects, yes? What a crock.

Why isn't your DC equipped to handle STEM? What are your DC's strengths? $30k a year sounds like a bargain to me compared to many of the other options out there.

What is "pleb tier"?

Anonymous wrote:UMC = Upper Middle Class.

Thanks!

OP is probably talking about places like UMD and James Madison.

Anonymous wrote:Without naming college names, the prospect of writing a $30,000 check for each of the next four or five years for a place that is pretty much open door for UMC students troubles me. Feels like parents are boxed in a corner even if our children haven't earned it. We're socially pressured to buy our underachieving kids the equivalent of a new sports car. Hey, nice work getting all those inflated B-pluses, here's a new Porsche 911 ($120,000), pal. There's no chance my son is equipped to handle a STEM, so whatever lightweight degree he ekes out from an already subpar university makes for pretty dim prospects, yes? What a crock.

This has to be a troll - too many DCUM "hot buttons" for it not to be a troll!

I'd love to know what colleges you consider to be this bottom tier, op. I have a feeling you are going to start naming any private college that is not an ivy ...

Anonymous wrote:

Can't they go to community college, do well there and then transfer to a better college, thus saving you 2 years of inflated tuition?

+1 Nobody's forcing you to send your kid to a specific college.

+1

UMC = Upper Middle Class.

Anonymous wrote:What a sad excuse for a Dad

+1000. Hard to believe OP's family doesn't detest him.

From a parenting POV you need to take some responsibility in the entitlement. What responsibilities do the kids have? Do they have a job? Volunteer somewhere? (other than the minimum requirement for graduation). Have a passion?

This is not a done deal. You can make a plan for a gap year - or community college. Set expectations for grades in college.

Anonymous wrote:Without naming college names, the prospect of writing a $30,000 check for each of the next four or five years for a place that is pretty much open door for UMC students troubles me. Feels like parents are boxed in a corner even if our children haven't earned it. We're socially pressured to buy our underachieving kids the equivalent of a new sports car. Hey, nice work getting all those inflated B-pluses, here's a new Porsche 911 ($120,000), pal. There's no chance my son is equipped to handle a STEM, so whatever lightweight degree he ekes out from an already subpar university makes for pretty dim prospects, yes? What a crock.

What is UMC?
Also agree with other posters who have suggested attending CC, improving grades and then transferring. This is a sound strategy unless your child's B-pluses are the result of hard work in which case that is what your child is capable of and his grades will not improve in CC. If this is the case, then as a parent your obligation is to send him to the best college he can get into that you can comfortably afford. If your child is "not equipped" for a STEM degree, your role as a parent is to help him figure out what he is suited for and how to use his strengths to enhance his prospects of having a successful career.

Where are you paying $30k a year? Are you planning on significant aid? If so you shouldn't complain so much.

A college degree is always worth having. Become a plumber, an electrician, anything but go to college if you, at all, can afford it.

It really comes down to what field he goes into and if he hustles/works hard. DH went to the top tier STEM schools in the country and makes 1/3 what I do from my 3rd rate college. My field makes a ton more than his field.