Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 11:06     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm jumping on this bandwagon too, OP. He's probably yelling at you because you're nagging him about it and you aren't realizing that it's YOUR job to handle these things. He's frustrated because no matter what he says, you're calling him an asshole for basically pointing out that it's your job. If you want him to go, you go to his office and finish up whatever he has to do for that day while he goes. You're being ridiculous.


So many times he lied at me when he said he had a lot of work on a certain day. He went to meet a group of friends and a former professor. He can leave earlier from work to have a coffee but not to be involved in his child's education??? And I have to decline invitations from friends because I'm overloaded with real work?


This cannot be real.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 11:01     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ther had been times he left earlier to see his father, who only cares about himself and his money. Now that my husband has an opportunity to come to an informative event with our child he yells at me. I'm so tired of the selfishness and arguments.


Your issues go beyond this event. If you want him to share equally in kid stuff, get a job.


I hold a degree and I used to work full time until I gave birth. If I get a job, I will probably be more respected at home but my son won't get the education he's been receiving every day from me. You cannot rely on schools for all the education.



Wait, so he's been getting education from you everyday because you can't rely on your school for all the education, yet you feel it's urgent/important for your DH to go WITH you to a school thing about teaching your child math from the same school you don't rely on to teach your kid for all his education?


yeah I don't get this either. The school is incompetent for your poor snowflake so you must educate him yourself. Yet your husband, who presumably works so you can do ridiculous crap like overload your poor kid with extra academics, has to attend this event on how to school the kid?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 11:00     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm jumping on this bandwagon too, OP. He's probably yelling at you because you're nagging him about it and you aren't realizing that it's YOUR job to handle these things. He's frustrated because no matter what he says, you're calling him an asshole for basically pointing out that it's your job. If you want him to go, you go to his office and finish up whatever he has to do for that day while he goes. You're being ridiculous.


So many times he lied at me when he said he had a lot of work on a certain day. He went to meet a group of friends and a former professor. He can leave earlier from work to have a coffee but not to be involved in his child's education??? And I have to decline invitations from friends because I'm overloaded with real work?


OMG OP you are insufferable. Your poor husband.

What's this real work you speak of?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:59     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:I'm jumping on this bandwagon too, OP. He's probably yelling at you because you're nagging him about it and you aren't realizing that it's YOUR job to handle these things. He's frustrated because no matter what he says, you're calling him an asshole for basically pointing out that it's your job. If you want him to go, you go to his office and finish up whatever he has to do for that day while he goes. You're being ridiculous.


So many times he lied at me when he said he had a lot of work on a certain day. He went to meet a group of friends and a former professor. He can leave earlier from work to have a coffee but not to be involved in his child's education??? And I have to decline invitations from friends because I'm overloaded with real work?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:55     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ther had been times he left earlier to see his father, who only cares about himself and his money. Now that my husband has an opportunity to come to an informative event with our child he yells at me. I'm so tired of the selfishness and arguments.


Your issues go beyond this event. If you want him to share equally in kid stuff, get a job.


I hold a degree and I used to work full time until I gave birth. If I get a job, I will probably be more respected at home but my son won't get the education he's been receiving every day from me. You cannot rely on schools for all the education.



Wait, so he's been getting education from you everyday because you can't rely on your school for all the education, yet you feel it's urgent/important for your DH to go WITH you to a school thing about teaching your child math from the same school you don't rely on to teach your kid for all his education?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:53     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
I am a SAHM specifically so I can attend these kinds of activities and not have to worry about juggling a work schedule. It might be different if your kid was in a performance, but your DH does not need to be there for a math fair. You go, since you will be the one helping him with the schoolwork most of the time. That is your role whether you like it or not. What are you doing that one child in school is overloading your day?
bookworm
Post 11/01/2016 10:52     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
many people are unhappy. it could be work. it could be anything. hopefully your husband will talk to you about it and stop taking it out on you.
so sorry!
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:52     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
OP, when DCUM is unanimous, you should listen.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:51     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care if your husband goes to a useless math meeting? Why is it so important that he takes PTO instead of either 1) neither of you going, or 2) you going, since you are the SAHP after all.

I agree with PP, if it was a concert or something your child was involved in, that would be different. But you're talking about a math meeting.

Further, it sounds important for you to be there, not your DH, since you say you are the one who is providing him with the education he is getting.


Kids are invited to this event.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:50     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
I'm jumping on this bandwagon too, OP. He's probably yelling at you because you're nagging him about it and you aren't realizing that it's YOUR job to handle these things. He's frustrated because no matter what he says, you're calling him an asshole for basically pointing out that it's your job. If you want him to go, you go to his office and finish up whatever he has to do for that day while he goes. You're being ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:47     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
I work part time and handle everything with the kids at school. My husband is busy working full time. You really need to lay iff the guilt trip. Going to a math program does NOT require two parents.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:47     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Why do you care if your husband goes to a useless math meeting? Why is it so important that he takes PTO instead of either 1) neither of you going, or 2) you going, since you are the SAHP after all.

I agree with PP, if it was a concert or something your child was involved in, that would be different. But you're talking about a math meeting.

Further, it sounds important for you to be there, not your DH, since you say you are the one who is providing him with the education he is getting.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:46     Subject: Re:Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well he may feel like you don't get the pressure he is under as a sole provider.


Exactly. Why SHOULD he do this? I'd expect my husband to go, probably, but we're both equally involved in kid stuff.


Doesyour DH yells at you every time you ask him to attend to this kind of event?


Of course not. Because the kids aren't "my" responsibility.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:46     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ther had been times he left earlier to see his father, who only cares about himself and his money. Now that my husband has an opportunity to come to an informative event with our child he yells at me. I'm so tired of the selfishness and arguments.


Your issues go beyond this event. If you want him to share equally in kid stuff, get a job.


I hold a degree and I used to work full time until I gave birth. If I get a job, I will probably be more respected at home but my son won't get the education he's been receiving every day from me. You cannot rely on schools for all the education.


I guess you have no recourse then.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 10:44     Subject: Husband acting like an asshole
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ther had been times he left earlier to see his father, who only cares about himself and his money. Now that my husband has an opportunity to come to an informative event with our child he yells at me. I'm so tired of the selfishness and arguments.


Your issues go beyond this event. If you want him to share equally in kid stuff, get a job.


I hold a degree and I used to work full time until I gave birth. If I get a job, I will probably be more respected at home but my son won't get the education he's been receiving every day from me. You cannot rely on schools for all the education.