AnnaTjacks
Post 11/04/2016 12:54     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Children are a blessing from the Lord. Enjoy them now. I do understand that you want things to flow and go perfect but since we are all human things will not always go the way we plan. Take the time to enjoy your kids. My kids are not grown and one is a teen. I remember how it was frustrating at times having to do everything. You want your kids to remember you as a fun mom. So what if they go to bed late or you miss a planned event. Have fun because they won't be young for long.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 11:39     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mom of three -- 7,4,and 1. Totally drowning. Considering major antidepressant or taking a job that rewuires extensive travel so I can run away from this mess and let some poor nanny supervise homework while doing dinner dishes while making tomorrow's lunches while navigating a fight between two little ones while keeping us more or less on the clock for baths and bedtime, which is now running towards 9:00 for the last one. I sat down last night at 7:55 to eat a piece of toast (my dinner) after getting my little ones to bed and my oldest instantly asked if I would get home a piece too. I almost cried I wanted to sit and relax so badly after he weekend. People keep telling me it will get better. I certainly hope so. You aren't alone OP (though you know that, because you are never alone. You have three kids. Someone always wants you).


When I'm in that place/mood, I tell my 7 yo "yes, you can have toast, but I'm relaxing right now so you'll need to get it yourself." 7 year olds can absolutely work toasters and microwaves themselves. I've been making an effort lately to remember that my older kids can and should do more for themselves. I don't treat my 3 year old like a 7 year old and shouldn't be treating my 7 year old like a 3 year old.


I agree with that. It's important not to get into a habit of being a servant. First kids can't do it, then they can but are too slow and messy and somehow we keep doing stuff for themselves long after they can do it on their own.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 11:35     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Anonymous wrote:Mom of three -- 7,4,and 1. Totally drowning. Considering major antidepressant or taking a job that rewuires extensive travel so I can run away from this mess and let some poor nanny supervise homework while doing dinner dishes while making tomorrow's lunches while navigating a fight between two little ones while keeping us more or less on the clock for baths and bedtime, which is now running towards 9:00 for the last one. I sat down last night at 7:55 to eat a piece of toast (my dinner) after getting my little ones to bed and my oldest instantly asked if I would get home a piece too. I almost cried I wanted to sit and relax so badly after he weekend. People keep telling me it will get better. I certainly hope so. You aren't alone OP (though you know that, because you are never alone. You have three kids. Someone always wants you).


When I'm in that place/mood, I tell my 7 yo "yes, you can have toast, but I'm relaxing right now so you'll need to get it yourself." 7 year olds can absolutely work toasters and microwaves themselves. I've been making an effort lately to remember that my older kids can and should do more for themselves. I don't treat my 3 year old like a 7 year old and shouldn't be treating my 7 year old like a 3 year old.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 09:40     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Anonymous wrote:Mom of three -- 7,4,and 1. Totally drowning. Considering major antidepressant or taking a job that rewuires extensive travel so I can run away from this mess and let some poor nanny supervise homework while doing dinner dishes while making tomorrow's lunches while navigating a fight between two little ones while keeping us more or less on the clock for baths and bedtime, which is now running towards 9:00 for the last one. I sat down last night at 7:55 to eat a piece of toast (my dinner) after getting my little ones to bed and my oldest instantly asked if I would get home a piece too. I almost cried I wanted to sit and relax so badly after he weekend. People keep telling me it will get better. I certainly hope so. You aren't alone OP (though you know that, because you are never alone. You have three kids. Someone always wants you).


Can you afford help?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2016 00:59     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Mom of three -- 7,4,and 1. Totally drowning. Considering major antidepressant or taking a job that rewuires extensive travel so I can run away from this mess and let some poor nanny supervise homework while doing dinner dishes while making tomorrow's lunches while navigating a fight between two little ones while keeping us more or less on the clock for baths and bedtime, which is now running towards 9:00 for the last one. I sat down last night at 7:55 to eat a piece of toast (my dinner) after getting my little ones to bed and my oldest instantly asked if I would get home a piece too. I almost cried I wanted to sit and relax so badly after he weekend. People keep telling me it will get better. I certainly hope so. You aren't alone OP (though you know that, because you are never alone. You have three kids. Someone always wants you).
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2016 18:26     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
Also: Leave the baby with DH and go do something that your older kids will really like. I did an overnight with my oldest once the baby turned one, and I cannot overstate just how fabulous it was.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2016 18:24     Subject: Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
I get like that too, OP. Cognitive behaviors therapy for anxiety helped--and what I know now is that when I end up feeling like that, I need some joy/fun and self-care,

Let something go, and watch something funny with DH. Get a babysitter. Take a hot bath before bed. Order take out you know is going to make everybody happy. Go to bed early and have sex (counts as vigorous exercise!).

Feeling like that is pretty much my warning sign to act before I feel worse. Enlist your DH here too.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2016 17:12     Subject: Re:Mom of 3 ....I feel like I'm drowning
I am a SAHM of 6, 3, and 1 year old. I felt like I was drowning late this summer. Started working out vigorously and made it a priority. The endorphins are awesome and I feel much better. The house is still a disaster and I don't always have my shit together but my stress has gone doen.