I think this depends a lot of the 11 year old. Not every kid is willing to play down to a 4 year olds level and be nice about it (my oldest would, but I don’t think all her friends would/could). I think it would be safe to assume a grown up will need to help. Please make sure someone also gives the 11 year old some age appropriate attention and/or space to do their own thing.
Did anyone say Guess who? My kids loved that at 4. Also Connect 4.