If he was a good man - he would have said no immediately, and then would not have burdened you with it.

But now you know. You know because he wants you to know. He enjoys this game.

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Anonymous wrote:Troll.

I doubt it. About 3 months after we were married, my husbands ex wife asked him to meet her and their son for a weekend trip in a third destination (not their state nor ours). Her reasoning was the son needed to see his dad. My husband offered to fly him up that weekend and she declined. It has never happened before or since then (we are years past this now) and I seriously think she just had a momentary lapse of like, being in denial he had actually remarried. It was very odd and I was bothered by it of course and my husband did not seriously consider it but he did put careful thought into how to let her know that was inappropriate and never going to happen without upsetting her/making a big deal about it. It was definitely weird though, we had been together 3 years by that point and the divorce was well and over. Like I said, I think she was in a weird place once we actually married.

This is different than OP situation. Personally I don't think it's very inappropriate, but my ex and I do family trips like this all the time. We're modern like that.

For your husbands ex to ask is bad, for your husband to even consider is stupid. They are called Ex for a very good reason.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no I wasn't the other woman before they divorced. They divorced about four years ago and they split because DH was unhappy and fell out of love with her.

That's it right there - people don't just "fall out of love" unless there was some unreasonable thing like abuse, addiction, or aduktery with no remorse - they really had no reason to divorce. He just sees marriage and commitment as a big grey area.

Actually, people fall out of love all the time without any of those things.

Well of course they feel they "fell out of love". But they don't get divorced. "Falling out of love" isn't a legitimate reason to get divorced. Duh. Every marriage goes through ups and downs.

Yeah, I can't think of a single good reason for her to ask or for your husband to even consider it.

+1

^and before the DCUM first wives jump on me, my husband has ALWAYS prioritized seeing his son and has always made sure there were frequent visits of either him going there or flying their son to our house. It was definitely not related to him not seeing his son, that was just her hook to make him more inclined to come or feel bad about saying no.

Anonymous wrote:Troll.

I doubt it. About 3 months after we were married, my husbands ex wife asked him to meet her and their son for a weekend trip in a third destination (not their state nor ours). Her reasoning was the son needed to see his dad. My husband offered to fly him up that weekend and she declined. It has never happened before or since then (we are years past this now) and I seriously think she just had a momentary lapse of like, being in denial he had actually remarried. It was very odd and I was bothered by it of course and my husband did not seriously consider it but he did put careful thought into how to let her know that was inappropriate and never going to happen without upsetting her/making a big deal about it. It was definitely weird though, we had been together 3 years by that point and the divorce was well and over. Like I said, I think she was in a weird place once we actually married.

What's the dear, is she more attractive, if so time to step up your game

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, no I wasn't the other woman before they divorced. They divorced about four years ago and they split because DH was unhappy and fell out of love with her.

That's it right there - people don't just "fall out of love" unless there was some unreasonable thing like abuse, addiction, or aduktery with no remorse - they really had no reason to divorce. He just sees marriage and commitment as a big grey area.

Actually, people fall out of love all the time without any of those things.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, no I wasn't the other woman before they divorced. They divorced about four years ago and they split because DH was unhappy and fell out of love with her.

That's it right there - people don't just "fall out of love" unless there was some unreasonable thing like abuse, addiction, or aduktery with no remorse - they really had no reason to divorce. He just sees marriage and commitment as a big grey area.

I've got one friend who divorced 6 years ago. She never told anyone at her work that she is divorced and even keeps a picture of her "family" (old family photo with husband and kids) displayed prominently on her desk. She says that doing this keeps guys from flirting with her. Everyone at work thinks she is still married and she plays alone when they ask about her husband.

Her relationship with the ex is bad so I can't imagine her asking him to be her date to a work function; however, if the OP's DH ex has a similar scenario going on I can see how she might invite DH to the event as long as their relationship isn't bad.

Who knows... I'm not sure I see it as disrespectful or anything like that. Just irregular in comparison to what we typically see out of divorced couples.

By the way... personally, my divorce was nasty. If for some reason my ex asked me for this type of favor... I would most likely decline; however, I would consider it. Consideration isn't reason to get pissed at someone.

Troll.

maybe he's now happy and has fallen back in love with her.
or he's unhappy and fallen out of love with you.
you married a flake.

Has he said no to her yet?

OP here, no I wasn't the other woman before they divorced. They divorced about four years ago and they split because DH was unhappy and fell out of love with her.