Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Considering we had a five-month-old infant killed by a speeding, text-obsessed driver in Leesburg recently, your' daughter was well within her rights to question the driver"

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/driver-of-jeep-that-killed-5-month-old-may-have-been-on-phone-court-records-say/2016/09/06/ced82f2e-7462-11e6-8149-b8d05321db62_story.html

I read the story yesterday, and I just want to say how deeply sorry I am for you and your family. I was crying and shaking reading the details. No one should go through what you have.

My 7 yr old and I have almost (I mean two inches separated us from the cars) been hit twice in an intersection by people looking at their phones. Anyone who stands up to those a$$holes about their behavior, including the OP's 13 yr old, deserves a medal.

By "we", I meant our community, not me personally.

OP, I would mention to the other girl's mom why you can't participate in car pool anymore. I feel like there are a lot of guys who do this despite their wives objections. This may give her fuel to help get her husband to listen to good sense. Or she may yank him from carpool duty. I would do it in a very matter of fact non accusatory way, like:
sue,
I just wanted to let you know that We can't participate in the soccer carpool anymore. Larla and I aren't co
Fortable with the frequency with which Dan checks his phone while driving.
Best,
Mary
Or whatever....

Anonymous wrote:Considering we had a five-month-old infant killed by a speeding, text-obsessed driver in Leesburg recently, your' daughter was well within her rights to question the driver"

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/driver-of-jeep-that-killed-5-month-old-may-have-been-on-phone-court-records-say/2016/09/06/ced82f2e-7462-11e6-8149-b8d05321db62_story.html

I read the story yesterday, and I just want to say how deeply sorry I am for you and your family. I was crying and shaking reading the details. No one should go through what you have.

My 7 yr old and I have almost (I mean two inches separated us from the cars) been hit twice in an intersection by people looking at their phones. Anyone who stands up to those a$$holes about their behavior, including the OP's 13 yr old, deserves a medal.

Since your DD is assertive I would suggest she say Don't mock me because you are in the wrong and are embarrassed.

Anonymous wrote:Recently in a carpooling situation, she became nervous because the driver was frequently looking at his phone while driving (not just at red lights -- but while the car was in motion). DD is pretty assertive so she asked that he stop at least until she was out of the car. His response was to mock her as "safety girl" in front of all of her friends.

I wouldn't want to weigh in until you gave more details on the conversation than you did here.

Considering we had a five-month-old infant killed by a speeding, text-obsessed driver in Leesburg recently, your' daughter was well within her rights to question the driver"

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/driver-of-jeep-that-killed-5-month-old-may-have-been-on-phone-court-records-say/2016/09/06/ced82f2e-7462-11e6-8149-b8d05321db62_story.html

Anonymous wrote:Kudos to your daughter for speaking up when she knew something wrong was happening, and to an adult, no less.

The dad was embarrassed, as he should've been. Calling her "safety girl" was meant to make it seem like she was overreacting to turn the focus away from his poor choices.

This exactly.

Embarrassed or not, that Dad is an a**hole and knew he did wrong,but rather than say sorry, he bullied your child. Call him on it. It will send your DD a strong message that it was right to stand up for the right thing.

If she was my daughter, I'd want her to put me (her dad) on the phone with the driver and I'd tell him to knock that shit off in no uncertain terms.

Teasing IS mocking. And mocking may be a common reaction for someone feeling defensive, but it's not a good one.

Kudos to your daughter for speaking up when she knew something wrong was happening, and to an adult, no less.

The dad was embarrassed, as he should've been. Calling her "safety girl" was meant to make it seem like she was overreacting to turn the focus away from his poor choices.

No more riding with that jerk.

Seems like a lot of folks are ok with looking at phones and driving and/or can't act like an adult when being asked to change behavior for safety reasons.

Anonymous wrote:I would just tell your daughter that the parent was obviously embarassed to be called out on his action and made the comment as a way of deflecting. It's still wrong but it's a common immature tactic. Let it go. You have learned a good lesson about them.

Agree with this.
It makes me wonder just how the daughter called him out on this too

Did he stop texting? And if he did, was the teasing lighthearted?

If he didn't stop, then this was vicious. If he did stop, and there was some lighthearted teasing, I would let it go.