My sister did this in high school. She was in a shared room, kept her clothes in my room and laid claim to the guest room. Then she laid claim to basement bedroom and the guest room. She was (and still is) and a-hole.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad it worked out, OP! I can see why he'd want the basement bedroom - teens need their space, especially if there are much-younger kids running around.

While I'm also glad it worked out, I don't believe that teens really need their own space. I was a teen with much younger kids and Denver once did I expect to be moved around the house for my privacy. A bit much, but again gladcall is ok.

Seriously, this is where the entitlement begins.

Oh for crying out loud. No it's not. Read the rest of the forums if you want to see where it starts. If this is a feasible solution with the space a family has, terrific.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad it worked out, OP! I can see why he'd want the basement bedroom - teens need their space, especially if there are much-younger kids running around.

While I'm also glad it worked out, I don't believe that teens really need their own space. I was a teen with much younger kids and Denver once did I expect to be moved around the house for my privacy. A bit much, but again gladcall is ok.

Seriously, this is where the entitlement begins.

He won't be in the house full-time much longer at 17 so it was a good solution to let him choose one room and give him some time to move his stuff.

Anonymous wrote:Glad it worked out, OP! I can see why he'd want the basement bedroom - teens need their space, especially if there are much-younger kids running around.

While I'm also glad it worked out, I don't believe that teens really need their own space. I was a teen with much younger kids and Denver once did I expect to be moved around the house for my privacy. A bit much, but again gladcall is ok.

Glad it worked out, OP! I can see why he'd want the basement bedroom - teens need their space, especially if there are much-younger kids running around.

I agree with the others. He needs to choose one bedroom and move there. You're not being unreasonable. It is great that he has a choice but you need to push the issue and make him choose. You are very respectful to him by not going in his room, but he can't own the whole house. You need to discuss with your husband and talk to the son together and have him choose. Good luck!

Suzy

Anonymous wrote:Is he able to sneak out in the basement? He could be motivated to be down there for a reason, but yes, pick one room.

It's a legal bedroom, so, yes, it's extremely sneakable. I mentioned that to my husband who thought I was being rediculous. Anyhow, after conversation dss has chosen the basement room. He's actually losing a lot of storage and study space this way, but he really wants the quiet and privacy. He's got a month to transition out of this room (an effective two weeks) and then we convert upstairs into a guest room/office and turn the space I was using upstairs for office space into additional play space for the girls.

Is he able to sneak out in the basement? He could be motivated to be down there for a reason, but yes, pick one room.

Yep, he needs to pick a space.
I think it's lovely and fine that you respect his space and let him chose. FWIW, I'm the bio-mom in a similar situation with our teen boy, and he is likewise protective about his space, which we respect.