I'm still trying to figure out what exactly happened.

So, first, you (OP) did something that upset your GF and she broke up with you as a result. After thinking about it, she apologized a few days later, and you said it was okay. But were you also waiting for her to express an interest in dating you again?

Alternatively, did you tell her that you wanted to continue seeing her? She may not have wanted to assume that the dating relationship was back on again. Maybe she was giving you the four days to think about it and contact her for a date, but then you didn't.

So then she made a second attempt contacting you. You were cold to her, and she backed off. Her third try was dropping off the care package for you.

It seems that you were waiting for her to ask you out and she's been waiting for you to ask her out. Unless this is all very recent, by now she probably thinks you're not interested in a relationship and has moved on.

I'm really curious about the timeline. Op said they hadn't talked for weeks in his post last week. I'm guessing this has been several weeks by now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

OK, then, here's my advice: she has moved on, but you haven't. And it sounds pathetic.

There's no need to be rude to OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

OK, then, here's my advice: she has moved on, but you haven't. And it sounds pathetic.

Hate to deviate from the question but I must ask.

A man saying he’s in your city is him dropping a hint or breadcrumbs if you will now?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

How is she being needy when she told OP "ok cool" to him saying he was in her town? She doesn't even look at his social media. Where in that seems needy?

She is crazy. OP get a restraining order.

LOL! Now that's taking all the drama to new heights!

OP, just let her go.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

How is she being needy when she told OP "ok cool" to him saying he was in her town? She doesn't even look at his social media. Where in that seems needy?

She is crazy. OP get a restraining order.

Yup. She's crazy(sarcasm), but he's the one who has been watching her Snapchat stories...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

How is she being needy when she told OP "ok cool" to him saying he was in her town? She doesn't even look at his social media. Where in that seems needy?

She is crazy. OP get a restraining order.

How is she crazy? Everyone else on here thinks she's not interested in OP. She just seems like she felt bad about how things ended so she essentially gave him a pity bag. Doesn't seem crazy at all. It's actually quite normal to feel guilty and not want to be the bad guy. If she was crazy I think she would be doing a whole heck of a lot more than what she's doing now, which isn't really anything.

I had a girlfriend that I broke up with several years ago. She was missing a few things personality wise but on the flip side, She was a good person, very sweet, good girlfriend, good sex, fun times, etc. When I broke up with her it crushed her. I felt bad because I hurt somebody that was truly a good person and had a good heart. So when I returned her stuff, I gave her a card and wrote some nice things about her and thanked her for what we had. I heard from a friend that it confused her, but it was my way of saying thank you and I still thought highly of her. My intentions were not to confuse or rekindle something. Just simply wanted her to know I appreciated what we did have, but it was time to move on.

I'm fairly certain this what OP's girl is doing.

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

How is she being needy when she told OP "ok cool" to him saying he was in her town? She doesn't even look at his social media. Where in that seems needy?

She is crazy. OP get a restraining order.

Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

This is what you deem needy? Ha. She sounds like the complete opposite to me.

Anonymous wrote:Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

How is she being needy when she told OP "ok cool" to him saying he was in her town? She doesn't even look at his social media. Where in that seems needy?

Whatever "better option" came along when she ghosted you has now stopped, and she wants you back because she remembers that you paid attention to her.

Don't give her the time of day. She's not being friendly, she's being needy. Red flag!

Anonymous wrote:This is a lot of angst over a non relationship with someone who lives too far away for it to work anyway. You're coming off as a little creepy, the way you keep explaining things to people as if we're going to change our minds about the advice we give, which has been a steady stream of move on.

He's young. Cut him some slack. Sometimes people need to understand why or why not to move on. OP seems to be one of those people. No need to call him creepy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

You mean like the identical thread he started last week?

This is a lot of angst over a non relationship with someone who lives too far away for it to work anyway. You're coming off as a little creepy, the way you keep explaining things to people as if we're going to change our minds about the advice we give, which has been a steady stream of move on.