Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a failure. You entered into a legal (and perhaps spiritual) agreement to stay together till one of you dies. Short of abuse or infidelity, you are supposed to honor that commitment. So, yes you failed. It's not the end of the world. But it is a big deal. Broken promises are a really big deal.
If you think it won't affect your kids, you are kidding yourself. My son's wife's parents are divorcing after 30 years of marriage. She is beyond devastated.
Wow, did anyone see it coming?
Anonymous wrote:It is a failure. You entered into a legal (and perhaps spiritual) agreement to stay together till one of you dies. Short of abuse or infidelity, you are supposed to honor that commitment. So, yes you failed. It's not the end of the world. But it is a big deal. Broken promises are a really big deal.
If you think it won't affect your kids, you are kidding yourself. My son's wife's parents are divorcing after 30 years of marriage. She is beyond devastated.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a failure. You entered into a legal (and perhaps spiritual) agreement to stay together till one of you dies. Short of abuse or infidelity, you are supposed to honor that commitment. So, yes you failed. It's not the end of the world. But it is a big deal. Broken promises are a really big deal.
If you think it won't affect your kids, you are kidding yourself. My son's wife's parents are divorcing after 30 years of marriage. She is beyond devastated.
Totally agree with this post.
And my dad divorced my stepmom when I was in my mid 30's. It totally affected me negatively. It changed how holidays and special occasions are celebrated for one. I also had to deal with their new relationships and complications. I'm not at all saying you shouldn't do it, but I'm confused about why you're surprised that people view it as a failure.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I feel if you can make it work for 26 years, you can keep making work. If you have kids, your husband's moving away may really jeopardize his relationship with them. And money? That, I really don't get. It will cost a lot to divorce, and it's more expensive to live separate lives than together. Unless you are wealthy, that's going to be a hit to your retirement.
I'd assume someone is having a mid life crisis or is gay.
Wow, you are so clueless. A lot of people stay together until the kids go away to college. nothing to be ashamed of. Sh*t happens.
Anonymous wrote:The 'shit happens' attitude is why marriages fail. So sadly selfish. No abuse or cheating--people that do this are perpetual infants who just get bored when there isn't something shiny and new in front of them.
Anonymous wrote:It is a failure. You entered into a legal (and perhaps spiritual) agreement to stay together till one of you dies. Short of abuse or infidelity, you are supposed to honor that commitment. So, yes you failed. It's not the end of the world. But it is a big deal. Broken promises are a really big deal.
If you think it won't affect your kids, you are kidding yourself. My son's wife's parents are divorcing after 30 years of marriage. She is beyond devastated.
Anonymous wrote:The 'shit happens' attitude is why marriages fail. So sadly selfish. No abuse or cheating--people that do this are perpetual infants who just get bored when there isn't something shiny and new in front of them.
Anonymous wrote:I feel if you can make it work for 26 years, you can keep making work. If you have kids, your husband's moving away may really jeopardize his relationship with them. And money? That, I really don't get. It will cost a lot to divorce, and it's more expensive to live separate lives than together. Unless you are wealthy, that's going to be a hit to your retirement.
I'd assume someone is having a mid life crisis or is gay.