Anonymous
Post 09/08/2016 09:27     Subject: Re:My husband is a good man, but...

I'm with you OP. My DH works at home so it's easy for him to put loads of clothes in and out but he hardly ever folds them. And never puts them away--they will be all over the bed when I get home if and when they are folded. I appreciate the fact that he actually does the laundry but he acts like he has done SO much each time he does it. No, honey--you did the easy part. Now I have to spend an hour folding and putting away four loads of laundry. And most of it is his (despite the fact he works at home in sweatpants).
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2016 09:02     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ah men....!!

They are truly lazy slobs when it comes down to anything domestic-related.

I personally couldn't share my living space w/a man because of how they live.
I am too much of an organized neat nik.

OP, while I get your frustration tenfold, at the same time I strongly advise you to choose your battles here.

Like other posters stated, if this is the worst thing you have to deal w/in your marriage, then you are very fortunate overall.


That's the problem.

BTW, your assessment of men fits some but certainly not all.


And it fits some women too! I'm a DW and I HATE folding laundry. In many cases I've taken a basket of clean laundry and just put it out of sight until I use what I need (or get really sick of it and finally put everything away). My husband and I normally do our laundry separately (bc I'm pickier about separating out and line drying stuff), so at least I'm not hiding HIS laundry, but otherwise I can totally relate to the husbands described here.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2016 07:10     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:Ah men....!!

They are truly lazy slobs when it comes down to anything domestic-related.

I personally couldn't share my living space w/a man because of how they live.
I am too much of an organized neat nik.

OP, while I get your frustration tenfold, at the same time I strongly advise you to choose your battles here.

Like other posters stated, if this is the worst thing you have to deal w/in your marriage, then you are very fortunate overall.


That's the problem.

BTW, your assessment of men fits some but certainly not all.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2016 05:13     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Ah men....!!

They are truly lazy slobs when it comes down to anything domestic-related.

I personally couldn't share my living space w/a man because of how they live.
I am too much of an organized neat nik.

OP, while I get your frustration tenfold, at the same time I strongly advise you to choose your battles here.

Like other posters stated, if this is the worst thing you have to deal w/in your marriage, then you are very fortunate overall.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 23:00     Subject: Re:My husband is a good man, but...

ThatBetch wrote:If this is your biggest complaint, your marriage is amazing and you should STFU and go love on your man.


Absof***lutely!
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 22:37     Subject: Re:My husband is a good man, but...

I would still be sleeping on the same sheets that were on the bed when I moved in with DH 15 yrs ago if I didn't change our sheets. Towels too!
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 22:27     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you need SOMETHING to be upset about. If it wasn't a basket with clothes it would just be something else.


Alternatively, there are other more major issues brewing and thus all annoyances, inconsiderations and patterns get old fast.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 21:56     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:DH does our laundry, which is in the basement of our building. He is mostly really awesome at it. However, for whatever reasons, he can't tell the difference between DD's shirts and mine. She's 6. I'm 36. I am forever pulling tiny shirts out of my shirt drawer. It's not a big deal at all, but something not being a big deal in comparison with other, much bigger things does not mean that it's not a facepalm moment or a thing that they could do better.


Take it as a compliment! LOL!
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 20:45     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you help him fold?

? Why does she have to help him fold? Is he 3?


because if she's a SAHM, that's her job.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 16:04     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

DH does our laundry, which is in the basement of our building. He is mostly really awesome at it. However, for whatever reasons, he can't tell the difference between DD's shirts and mine. She's 6. I'm 36. I am forever pulling tiny shirts out of my shirt drawer. It's not a big deal at all, but something not being a big deal in comparison with other, much bigger things does not mean that it's not a facepalm moment or a thing that they could do better.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 15:54     Subject: My husband is a good man, but...

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you need SOMETHING to be upset about. If it wasn't a basket with clothes it would just be something else.


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 15:47     Subject: Re:My husband is a good man, but...

Sorry, OP. I would be annoyed too if my husband hid my clothes, even if he had good intentions.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2016 14:46     Subject: Re:My husband is a good man, but...

I hear ya, OP. We went out of town over a month ago and dh's partially unpacked suitcase is still sitting on a chair in the living room. I usually wait a week or two and then pick it up and say, okay if I put this in your office? But we're scheduled to go out of town in another week so maybe I'll just leave it there for now.
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wait, did I write this?! DH travels every couple of weeks. he leaves the suitcase on the floor of our room, open with dirty clothes in it, etc. The day before he travels again, he puts the clothes in the hamper, repacks, etc.

Its one of those things that used to irk me, and then I made a conscious effort to let it go. He also will also leave clean, folded laundry on his dresser for days.