He's not a mind reader. Guys are told they should be sensitive, that they should not push for sex when the woman doesn't want it. "No" not only means "no," but also the man should get a woman's enthusiastic, affirmative consent before proceeding.

And then they're also told that women get turned on by aggressive initiations and turned off by half assed ones.

So, if he can't read minds, a guy has to decide whether he'd rather be a rapist or a shitty lover.

Next time he grabs your ass, just tell him to f the shi@ out of you right now!

Anonymous wrote:So it's cool for you not to try at all, but then after months of rejecting hum he's supposed to be super lover?
Of course he half-asses it , why get his hopes all the way up just to be smacked away.
Stop the navel gazing an up your game!

-married mom with 4 kids.

+1,
From a woman who has experienced repeated rejection from DH