My two hardest decisions aren't yet done yet. First is how to handle my extremely dysfunctional sister who is profoundly mentally ill and I don't know what to do. I am not qualified to provide the help she needs, and she is miserably unhappy but there is nothing in the world I can do to help. For now, I talk to her weekly and listen to her and tell her I think she needs to have medication. Second is whether to stay married to my husband who had a year-long affair. We have three young children and I love him. But the affair nearly destroyed me.

I make a new decision every day on these two issues. Every day I decide whether or not to answer the phone when my sister calls. Every day I decide to stay with my husband. Every day I put off a final decision. Boundaries - I need them!

Anonymous wrote:To have a child on my own - single mom by choice style, not an 'oops, now what do I do' situation. Hardest but best decision of my life.

Plus 1. I adopted. How about you!?

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Anonymous wrote:Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

I also stayed with my husband who is an alcoholic and now sober. The fact we are still married is a miracle. I'm also expecting. It's amazing how different an alcoholic is when sober.

Best of luck to you! To be fair, I don't notice a huge difference in my husband day to day. He was hiding how much he was drinking to deal with stress and anxiety. He was a functional alcoholic. Now, he has learned different methods to deal with these things.

I will say how proud I am of him for remaining sober through some very difficult times. The past 3 years have been very hard for our family and could have easily caused a relapse for many.

Deciding to raise my son and become a single teen mom after a very unplanned pregnancy. Giving up my full scholarship to keep him. Never a regret at all. He's 18 now a truly wonderful human being.

A lot of decisions were hard then though.

Deciding if I should have one or both breasts cut off the night before surgery.

Anonymous wrote:Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

I also stayed with my husband who is an alcoholic and now sober. The fact we are still married is a miracle. I'm also expecting. It's amazing how different an alcoholic is when sober.

Whether or not to quit working and become a SAHM. I just had a second child and my parents just died, so there was a tiny financial support.

Deciding to stay with my husband, who is an alcoholic - he is almost 3 years sober and attends AA a couple times a week. It was a tough couple of months and we were just getting back to somewhat normal when I got pregnant a bit surprisingly after many years of unexplained secondary infertility. It turned out great, but had you told me that I would have a baby less than a year after nearly divorcing my husband, I would have told you that was nuts. I mean, to hear it, it sounds nuts. But, it worked out for us and we are doing well.

Going through IVF and staying with my husband after he cheated.

IVF turned out not being a big deal and it got me pregnant.

My marriage is in a great place and I'm happy

An abortion. I did it . A very wise decision in the end since I ended the relationship. I would've have been a very miserable single parent. lesson learned!

Choosing between my husband and my oldest friend/who'd become my affair partner, when I truly loved them both very much. Stuck with my husband.

Stopping my abuse of Vicodin. Seems like an obvious choice but it had me in its grip.

The easier and hardest decision was to terminate a relationship with my brother.

It was easy, because I'd had enough. I reached a point of "no more fucks to give." It was hard, because it also meant dealing with the things related to that - not involving our other siblings, trying to earn their respect for how I handled my decision (essentially not bringing them into any drama), and accepting that I won't be involved with his kids. Which truthfully, wasn't going to happen no matter what, estrangement or not. That heartbreak is something I don't feel I can gamble with.

I've dealt with much, much more difficult things in life, but I'd say that was both my most difficult, and also easiest "decision."

What to do when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant and not married. I thought about abortion for one day or so and that was the end of that line of thinking. Then came the thinking about adoption and that ended equally as quickly. I couldn't see giving up a child when the only difference between me and an adoptive family was that they had more money. My DD is 10 now and we live a very nice life happily together. Her dad sees her a few times per year (he lives out west). It's all good.

When to pull the feeding tube on my mom.

what to major in at college
where to go to graduate school
who to date at the age when I was ready to get married
whether to move or not
Hardest decisions usually correspond with the worst decisions.