Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you need to be dramatic about it, "goodbye forever" thing seems a big much. Aren't you going to have to see her at work?

And be honest, what was your role in this? You seem a little coy, like you have to think about if you mentioned a kids activity.
Don't you wear a wedding band?

We don't work together anymore.

Honestly I cannot be sure about the kid events, but I've been replaying all the events so much in my head to see if I ever lead her on, which I'd be upset with myself about, but memories are getting fuzzier each time I replay them in my head so I have lost some certitude. I guess I'm just angry and sad, angry that she's now ruined the friendship and sad because I've lost someone who I felt close to (as a friend).

Dude, you had a few lunches together. What's with all the emotion about it? You obviously we're developing feelings for her too, but don't want to admit it to yourself. It's like you're playing dumb, but with yourself.

No way she "forgot" you were married. Unless you don't wear a ring and were steadfast in avoiding any conversation about your wife and kids. But if she was interested in you, your marital status is one of the first things she would have registered.

Now that you know she was interested in dating you, you need to let go of the fantasy of this lost "friendship"... because that's not what it was. Gimme a break. Go tell your wife that you're emotionally vulnerable due to this friendship lost. See how she reacts.

Stop being a yodel-head.

+1
Everything this person said.
I can't imagine sitting across much from someone and not noticing a wedding band. Or getting so hurt and having to give a "never again, goodbye forever speech". Your story is not adding up.

Anonymous wrote:Oh yeah, and I agree. Go talk to your wife about all of this, and see what her advice is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you need to be dramatic about it, "goodbye forever" thing seems a big much. Aren't you going to have to see her at work?

And be honest, what was your role in this? You seem a little coy, like you have to think about if you mentioned a kids activity.
Don't you wear a wedding band?

We don't work together anymore.

Honestly I cannot be sure about the kid events, but I've been replaying all the events so much in my head to see if I ever lead her on, which I'd be upset with myself about, but memories are getting fuzzier each time I replay them in my head so I have lost some certitude. I guess I'm just angry and sad, angry that she's now ruined the friendship and sad because I've lost someone who I felt close to (as a friend).

Dude, you had a few lunches together. What's with all the emotion about it? You obviously we're developing feelings for her too, but don't want to admit it to yourself. It's like you're playing dumb, but with yourself.

No way she "forgot" you were married. Unless you don't wear a ring and were steadfast in avoiding any conversation about your wife and kids. But if she was interested in you, your marital status is one of the first things she would have registered.

Now that you know she was interested in dating you, you need to let go of the fantasy of this lost "friendship"... because that's not what it was. Gimme a break. Go tell your wife that you're emotionally vulnerable due to this friendship lost. See how she reacts.

Stop being a yodel-head.

+1
Everything this person said.
I can't imagine sitting across much from someone and not noticing a wedding band. Or getting so hurt and having to give a "never again, goodbye forever speech". Your story is not adding up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op why don't you wear your wedding band? See, that's the real question. Op do your female friends tend to forget you are married? Has this happened a couple of times. Hmmmm! I'm just going to sip my tea and continue filing my nails while waiting for your answer.

Neither my wife not I wear a band, and many of our friends do not either, not our thing. No it has not happened before, likely because my life revolves around my kids, and female friends or male friends all know this.

Anonymous wrote:Op why don't you wear your wedding band? See, that's the real question. Op do your female friends tend to forget you are married? Has this happened a couple of times. Hmmmm! I'm just going to sip my tea and continue filing my nails while waiting for your answer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you need to be dramatic about it, "goodbye forever" thing seems a big much. Aren't you going to have to see her at work?

And be honest, what was your role in this? You seem a little coy, like you have to think about if you mentioned a kids activity.
Don't you wear a wedding band?

We don't work together anymore.

Honestly I cannot be sure about the kid events, but I've been replaying all the events so much in my head to see if I ever lead her on, which I'd be upset with myself about, but memories are getting fuzzier each time I replay them in my head so I have lost some certitude. I guess I'm just angry and sad, angry that she's now ruined the friendship and sad because I've lost someone who I felt close to (as a friend).

Dude, you had a few lunches together. What's with all the emotion about it? You obviously we're developing feelings for her too, but don't want to admit it to yourself. It's like you're playing dumb, but with yourself.

No way she "forgot" you were married. Unless you don't wear a ring and were steadfast in avoiding any conversation about your wife and kids. But if she was interested in you, your marital status is one of the first things she would have registered.

Now that you know she was interested in dating you, you need to let go of the fantasy of this lost "friendship"... because that's not what it was. Gimme a break. Go tell your wife that you're emotionally vulnerable due to this friendship lost. See how she reacts.

Stop being a yodel-head.