Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 14:03     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:In less there is good reason, then my child knows with specific people, the proper greeting is a hug, kiss and telling them its nice to see them. Maybe teach your child manners?


You are disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:20     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
I would never allow anyone to jerk my kid around like that. For the posters saying "we all survived this back in the day..." NOPE. I was born in '76, and if I thought my uncle looked scary because he grew a beard, then I wasn't forced to hug or kiss them.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:15     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This kind of thing has been happening since the beginning of time. Somehow we all survived...


And some of us were abused, molested, pressured into sex, or date raped because we were taught to go along, to be "good," to be liked.


You're making a huge leap there, drama queen.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:15     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nip this in the bud. Your son owns his body and "owes" affection to no one. What a horrible example to set, that affection can be "bought" for gifts or that "good children" give affection.

You are right, OP. Protect your child.

http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/20/living/give-grandma-hug-child/


+1

Children should NEVER be forced to hug or kiss anyone, especially for a gift! Gross.


+1


+1. It could be that OP's mother doesn't exhibit the same behavior, or was corrected and changed her behavior. I have the same rules about no forced physical contact with my child - my mother got it after a few reminders, and my MIL has said she is entitled (her word) to physical affection from my child. It's a battle every time - one that I let her son handle. And yes, my child is now affectionate with my mother because she never forced the issue. And he has never warmed up to MIL. Her loss.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:08     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - serious question. Would you be as upset if it was your mother (vs MIL)?


Doubtful.


No OP, but my own mother has social skills and recognizes when someone else is uncomfortable. She would never force physical contact on someone else when it clearly wasn't wanted.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:06     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nip this in the bud. Your son owns his body and "owes" affection to no one. What a horrible example to set, that affection can be "bought" for gifts or that "good children" give affection.

You are right, OP. Protect your child.

http://www.cnn.com/2012/06/20/living/give-grandma-hug-child/


+1

Children should NEVER be forced to hug or kiss anyone, especially for a gift! Gross.


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 13:02     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
In less there is good reason, then my child knows with specific people, the proper greeting is a hug, kiss and telling them its nice to see them. Maybe teach your child manners?
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 12:57     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
NP here who has explained to both set of grandparents that the children will not give hugs and kisses if they don't want to. They will be polite (wave, say thank you, etc.) but no forced affection. Unfortunately only one set of grandparents listened. The other set regularly gets reminded but always try to guilt the kids into hugs and kisses. The kids usually say no several times and then I have to intervene and say "it's okay you don't have to if you don't want to, please wave and say good-bye nicely "
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:59     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:This kind of thing has been happening since the beginning of time. Somehow we all survived...


And some of us were abused, molested, pressured into sex, or date raped because we were taught to go along, to be "good," to be liked.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:56     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
This kind of thing has been happening since the beginning of time. Somehow we all survived...
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:48     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Op you are right. Most of these posters probably have horrible relationships with their MILs, which is why they are so quick to jump on you. You can love someone but dislike something they do. You are the mom. You can intervene on behalf of your son. Here's an article if it is helpful...

http://adrielbooker.com/teaching-kids-body-privacy-personal-agency-consent/
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:43     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Just stop, OP. Your son is picking up on your attitude which is probably why he's not more affectionate with your MIL.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:38     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
This is a serious consent issue. Please nip this in the bud before he learns that physical intimacy can be forced.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:35     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
Anonymous wrote:OP - serious question. Would you be as upset if it was your mother (vs MIL)?


Doubtful.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2016 11:31     Subject: Mother in law forces my son to give hugs and kisses.
I love the way OP says "...forces my son...".