Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 19:32     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good thing you don't have a girl.

By high school they were switching around clothes so much it was impossible for me to track. I was appalled at first that things weren't getting returned, but by the same token there were things of my DDs that had disappeared into other girls' wardrobes. So I figured it all evened out in the end and they had their own accountability system for making sure no one girl got out of hand with the "borrowing."


I get really ticked off when DD lends away clothing I bought her.


PP here. So was I at first. It came down to pick your battles and this one where I surrendered.


Ohh. Maybe it's because I'm poor, but I choose this battle.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 19:18     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:OP, why is this even an issue? There's no way you could beat this clueless. Your kid borrowed another kids clothes, and those clothes now have to be returned. This is not a hard concept. I don't understand why you don't understand that the clothes get returned to the owner. Unless you condone your kid basically stealing. Teach your kid some etiquette. You don't let him keep the clothes and replace with a gift card so the other mom can go out and buy replacements for gods sake.
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be this clueless
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 19:16     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
OP, why is this even an issue? There's no way you could beat this clueless. Your kid borrowed another kids clothes, and those clothes now have to be returned. This is not a hard concept. I don't understand why you don't understand that the clothes get returned to the owner. Unless you condone your kid basically stealing. Teach your kid some etiquette. You don't let him keep the clothes and replace with a gift card so the other mom can go out and buy replacements for gods sake.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 18:21     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wash them and give them back. Unless he's damaged them, he doesn't get to keep them just because he feels like it.


This.


Yes. Most likely, if money matters to her, these were beloved articles of clothing.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 14:58     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good thing you don't have a girl.

By high school they were switching around clothes so much it was impossible for me to track. I was appalled at first that things weren't getting returned, but by the same token there were things of my DDs that had disappeared into other girls' wardrobes. So I figured it all evened out in the end and they had their own accountability system for making sure no one girl got out of hand with the "borrowing."


I get really ticked off when DD lends away clothing I bought her.


PP here. So was I at first. It came down to pick your battles and this one where I surrendered.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 12:46     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
What? This is bizarre. Give the clothes back, don't force her to go out and buy replacements, even if you're covering the cost. I can't wrap my head around why you aren't giving the clothes back.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 12:43     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to what happened to the clothes. You really can't figure out what is his and what isn't? That's really bizarre, but I guess a gift card to a store that sells UA clothes would be fine. Make sure it's enough to cover what has been "subsumed".


OP here - thank you for the input.

Yes, I we can tell which clothing belongs to whom; I feel badly because DS has worn them more than once.


That's not an issue. Pull it out of his drawers, put it in a bag and give it to the mom. Although borrowing underwear from another kid is kind of gross. I'd give her a giftcard in addition for a new pack of underwear as a "thank you" for having lent the clothes.


Or buy the new pack of underwear. Why should she have to run to the store to do that?
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 12:11     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to what happened to the clothes. You really can't figure out what is his and what isn't? That's really bizarre, but I guess a gift card to a store that sells UA clothes would be fine. Make sure it's enough to cover what has been "subsumed".


OP here - thank you for the input.

Yes, I we can tell which clothing belongs to whom; I feel badly because DS has worn them more than once.


He wore his friend's undies? More than once? Maybe it's different for guys but ewww.

Not OP but by the time I had boy #3, I was able to let hangups like this go. Underwear washed in hot water is as good as new, as far as I'm concerned.


PP you are responding to. Good to know. I have two boys but they are little (one still in diapers). Clearly I am not yet prepared for the grossness that is preteen/teen boys. Ugh. Good thing I have a few years to get better at this ....
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:59     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good thing you don't have a girl.

By high school they were switching around clothes so much it was impossible for me to track. I was appalled at first that things weren't getting returned, but by the same token there were things of my DDs that had disappeared into other girls' wardrobes. So I figured it all evened out in the end and they had their own accountability system for making sure no one girl got out of hand with the "borrowing."


I get really ticked off when DD lends away clothing I bought her.
+1, except I have a boy. Our rule is no burrowing or switching.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:59     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to what happened to the clothes. You really can't figure out what is his and what isn't? That's really bizarre, but I guess a gift card to a store that sells UA clothes would be fine. Make sure it's enough to cover what has been "subsumed".


OP here - thank you for the input.

Yes, I we can tell which clothing belongs to whom; I feel badly because DS has worn them more than once.


No one will care that they were worn more than once. Just return them ASAP. I honestly don't even get why that's a consideration.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:54     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:Good thing you don't have a girl.

By high school they were switching around clothes so much it was impossible for me to track. I was appalled at first that things weren't getting returned, but by the same token there were things of my DDs that had disappeared into other girls' wardrobes. So I figured it all evened out in the end and they had their own accountability system for making sure no one girl got out of hand with the "borrowing."


I get really ticked off when DD lends away clothing I bought her.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:53     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to what happened to the clothes. You really can't figure out what is his and what isn't? That's really bizarre, but I guess a gift card to a store that sells UA clothes would be fine. Make sure it's enough to cover what has been "subsumed".


OP here - thank you for the input.

Yes, I we can tell which clothing belongs to whom; I feel badly because DS has worn them more than once.


That's not an issue. Pull it out of his drawers, put it in a bag and give it to the mom. Although borrowing underwear from another kid is kind of gross. I'd give her a giftcard in addition for a new pack of underwear as a "thank you" for having lent the clothes.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:50     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
I'm a single mom, and it pisses me off when I come through in a pinch and lend a friend some of DD's clothes, and then they don't return them. I've never been offered a gift card, but that would aggravate me, too - buying replacement clothes is just one more thing to do. Just give the clothes back!
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:35     Subject: Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Anonymous wrote:Return - yourself, personally so you know it gets done - with a note apologizing for the mix-up. And why not also throw in a gift card, that's a nice touch - - - $25/$50

But do it yourself. Do it now.


Just return the clothes -- this happens all the time and it's not as if one extra wearing renders them unreturnable. I'd be mortified if someone handed me a gift card in ANY amount in return for my allowing a child to borrow clothes. That would be very strange. Come to think of it, this whole question is very strange.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2016 11:35     Subject: Re:Help replace borrowed clothing please -
Good thing you don't have a girl.

By high school they were switching around clothes so much it was impossible for me to track. I was appalled at first that things weren't getting returned, but by the same token there were things of my DDs that had disappeared into other girls' wardrobes. So I figured it all evened out in the end and they had their own accountability system for making sure no one girl got out of hand with the "borrowing."