Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I'm so excited to be a MIL! With 3 boys and no girls, I figure i'll probably like 1 of my DILs and not like the others. I can focus on relationship building with the one I like without the obligation that seems to come with having daughters.

My MIL likes all 3 of her DILs (or so she says, lol).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yikes. This made me cringe.

Ha! Stop being jelly.

Stop being 10.

Jelly? really?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yikes. This made me cringe.

Ha! Stop being jelly.

Maybe the queen remark was said tongue in cheek, but who knows. You may be queen now of your sons, young moms, but when the DILs come along and dethrone you, if you loved being queen too much you're in for trouble.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yikes. This made me cringe.

Ha! Stop being jelly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I think there is a BIG difference between MILs with only one son (plus daughters or as an only) and MILs who have all boys.

Everyone I know who has a husband with only brothers or mostly brothers thinks their MILs are not too bad to really great. I think those MILs are happy to have some female blood in the family, have been worn down by their sons to be really laid back and fun, and are ready to enjoy their DILs.

The women I know who have a husband with mostly sisters or who are onlies tend to have MILs who run the gammut between truly awful to meh. I think in these cases, MILs and DILs get into competitions about who is more important in the son/husband's world.

These generalizations about MILs are so tiresome. My MIL has three daughters and one son. She is really, really wonderful and I've never felt competition with her or her daughters.

OP, I have two boys and am maybe considering a third. We have three nieces and, from what we've seen so far, they are a LOT more difficult than the boys (all 8 cousins are between 2-6 yo). The boys tend to roll with the flow, are excited to explore and create, don't whine nearly as much, etc. In general the girls are way more needy, are already excluding others, brag a lot and are way more emotionally draining for me. We are considering having a third child and I'm REALLY hoping it's another boy. I hope you come to peace with your situation.

New poster here. Your "wonderful" relationship with your MIL might have more to do with her than you. There are abundant generalization about the MIL because it is often true. You will soon find out when your boys marry. As you say, "the boys tend to roll with the flow". Because of this, after they marry, they tend to follow their wives cue on social situation. This should not be surprising.

This is why I make a point to tell my sons that they'll need to continue to build and maintain a relationship with their father and me throughout their lives, if that's their choice. It isn't their wives responsibility to do that for them or to get in the way of it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They're just a ton of fun! I, too, have mourned not having a daughter, but my boys (20, 16, and 12) are the absolute light of my life. Even if I had a daughter, that doesn't mean I'd have the stereotypical mother-daughter experiences.

But you don't know that.

PP here; I don't know what, that I wouldn't have the stereotypical mother-daughter experiences? So what? The point is that often when we decide to have kids, we have expectations for how and who our kids will be and what we'll mean to them in their lives. Those expectations often don't meet the reality, so rather than be sad about that, it's helpful to embrace all the really great and unexpected joys in the reality of the parenting experience. At the end of the day, having children isn't about making new people to meet our expectations and fulfill our dreams; it's about sheparding new people to be their best selves in the world.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I'm so excited to be a MIL! With 3 boys and no girls, I figure i'll probably like 1 of my DILs and not like the others. I can focus on relationship building with the one I like without the obligation that seems to come with having daughters.

OMG I really hope you are joking. You sound like an awful person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I think there is a BIG difference between MILs with only one son (plus daughters or as an only) and MILs who have all boys.

Everyone I know who has a husband with only brothers or mostly brothers thinks their MILs are not too bad to really great. I think those MILs are happy to have some female blood in the family, have been worn down by their sons to be really laid back and fun, and are ready to enjoy their DILs.

The women I know who have a husband with mostly sisters or who are onlies tend to have MILs who run the gammut between truly awful to meh. I think in these cases, MILs and DILs get into competitions about who is more important in the son/husband's world.

These generalizations about MILs are so tiresome. My MIL has three daughters and one son. She is really, really wonderful and I've never felt competition with her or her daughters.

OP, I have two boys and am maybe considering a third. We have three nieces and, from what we've seen so far, they are a LOT more difficult than the boys (all 8 cousins are between 2-6 yo). The boys tend to roll with the flow, are excited to explore and create, don't whine nearly as much, etc. In general the girls are way more needy, are already excluding others, brag a lot and are way more emotionally draining for me. We are considering having a third child and I'm REALLY hoping it's another boy. I hope you come to peace with your situation.

New poster here. Your "wonderful" relationship with your MIL might have more to do with her than you. There are abundant generalization about the MIL because it is often true. You will soon find out when your boys marry. As you say, "the boys tend to roll with the flow". Because of this, after they marry, they tend to follow their wives cue on social situation. This should not be surprising.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I think there is a BIG difference between MILs with only one son (plus daughters or as an only) and MILs who have all boys.

Everyone I know who has a husband with only brothers or mostly brothers thinks their MILs are not too bad to really great. I think those MILs are happy to have some female blood in the family, have been worn down by their sons to be really laid back and fun, and are ready to enjoy their DILs.

The women I know who have a husband with mostly sisters or who are onlies tend to have MILs who run the gammut between truly awful to meh. I think in these cases, MILs and DILs get into competitions about who is more important in the son/husband's world.

These generalizations about MILs are so tiresome. My MIL has three daughters and one son. She is really, really wonderful and I've never felt competition with her or her daughters.

OP, I have two boys and am maybe considering a third. We have three nieces and, from what we've seen so far, they are a LOT more difficult than the boys (all 8 cousins are between 2-6 yo). The boys tend to roll with the flow, are excited to explore and create, don't whine nearly as much, etc. In general the girls are way more needy, are already excluding others, brag a lot and are way more emotionally draining for me. We are considering having a third child and I'm REALLY hoping it's another boy. I hope you come to peace with your situation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yeah, and then you get to be a MIL. Watch that tendency.

I think there is a BIG difference between MILs with only one son (plus daughters or as an only) and MILs who have all boys.

Everyone I know who has a husband with only brothers or mostly brothers thinks their MILs are not too bad to really great. I think those MILs are happy to have some female blood in the family, have been worn down by their sons to be really laid back and fun, and are ready to enjoy their DILs.

The women I know who have a husband with mostly sisters or who are onlies tend to have MILs who run the gammut between truly awful to meh. I think in these cases, MILs and DILs get into competitions about who is more important in the son/husband's world.

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

Yikes. This made me cringe.

Anonymous wrote:They're just a ton of fun! I, too, have mourned not having a daughter, but my boys (20, 16, and 12) are the absolute light of my life. Even if I had a daughter, that doesn't mean I'd have the stereotypical mother-daughter experiences.

But you don't know that.

They're just a ton of fun! I, too, have mourned not having a daughter, but my boys (20, 16, and 12) are the absolute light of my life. Even if I had a daughter, that doesn't mean I'd have the stereotypical mother-daughter experiences.

Anonymous wrote:I get to be queen.
Not as much drama
I get more say in how thinks look.
Stronger snow shovelers

+1

Anonymous wrote:Fart jokes.

+1

And laughing at farts.

My 15yo son told me that if I wrote a personals ad, it would say I like walking on the beach, laughing at farts, and china cabinets.