Anonymous wrote:Dude's a freak. Tell him to grow up.

Grow up . Give up your easily obtainable dreams. Die a little .

Anonymous wrote:My DH says he wants to spice up our sex life with costumes. He wants me to be a cheerleader. I find this idea repulsive. Is he thinking of teenagers? I told him I will do sexy lingerie, but no way any cheerleader stuff. Am I being unreasonable?

How can he pretend your old body is that of a teenager? Get a grip.

Anonymous wrote:Except real men won't be shamed. They will get what they need with no conscience.

Beta men will conform and stew.

Women who have given themselves and truley love their man deeply would not bat an eyelash at such a request .

Op is holding hubby at a distance . This is not a close relationship . Lots going on under the surface and defenses are up.

Dude's a freak. Tell him to grow up.

I've got more.

Sexy secretary. Sexy polo player. Sexy radio announcer. Sexy IT guy. Sexy photographer. Sexy appliance repair person. Sexy school-marm. Sexy great-aunt. Sexy janitor. Sexy nurse. Sexy zoo-keeper. Sexy dental hygienist. Sexy dentist. Sexy X-ray tech.

Except real men won't be shamed. They will get what they need with no conscience.

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Anonymous wrote:Your relationship is not done, but you do need to work harder to be kind and meet somewhere in the middle, OP. If you truly cannot handle the cheerleader fantasy, ask him for other ideas in a good-hearted effort to find one that appeals to you. But, for the sake of your relationship, keep an open mind and don't tell him you find any of them repulsive.

I agree with this over the PP but I will say: if you do keep up the sex-shaming, you will kill any trust and intimacy in your relationship, and that will be a mortal blow to the relationship overall...You only get a few whacks like that before you kill off any willingness on his part to be vulnerable to you by sharing his intimate desires. This is exactly like some man telling his wife she is fat and disgusting and then wondering why she won't have sex with him anymore.

Find a middle ground. There has got to be something you'll consent to: sexy doctor? Sexy construction worker? Sexy lion tamer? Sexy meter-maid? Sexy lunch-lady? Sexy police officer? Sexy super-hero? Sexy sanitation worker? I know we can find something.

Though, Cheerleader seems like low on disgust-o-rama scale, for real, OP. You should give it a try before you flat out say NO.

Bravo to your husband for opening up to you. That wasn't easy. And you punished him for it (see bolded from the smart PPs).

Sexy scuba-diver? Sexy football player? Sexy bartender? Sexy teacher? Sexy carpenter? Sexy plumber? Yeah, baby.

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Hmmm maybe it's your reality? Some men are into strippers, cheerleaders, fake overboard "porn styled" everything, others have better taste.

"You're enjoying yourself wrong!" she shrilled, "You should only enjoy yourself the way I say!"

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Anonymous wrote:Your relationship is not done, but you do need to work harder to be kind and meet somewhere in the middle, OP. If you truly cannot handle the cheerleader fantasy, ask him for other ideas in a good-hearted effort to find one that appeals to you. But, for the sake of your relationship, keep an open mind and don't tell him you find any of them repulsive.

I agree with this over the PP but I will say: if you do keep up the sex-shaming, you will kill any trust and intimacy in your relationship, and that will be a mortal blow to the relationship overall...You only get a few whacks like that before you kill off any willingness on his part to be vulnerable to you by sharing his intimate desires. This is exactly like some man telling his wife she is fat and disgusting and then wondering why she won't have sex with him anymore.

shaming... that's what you did. Congratulations!

Anonymous wrote:Your relationship is not done, but you do need to work harder to be kind and meet somewhere in the middle, OP. If you truly cannot handle the cheerleader fantasy, ask him for other ideas in a good-hearted effort to find one that appeals to you. But, for the sake of your relationship, keep an open mind and don't tell him you find any of them repulsive.

I agree with this over the PP but I will say: if you do keep up the sex-shaming, you will kill any trust and intimacy in your relationship, and that will be a mortal blow to the relationship overall...You only get a few whacks like that before you kill off any willingness on his part to be vulnerable to you by sharing his intimate desires. This is exactly like some man telling his wife she is fat and disgusting and then wondering why she won't have sex with him anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:PS. I suspect you hate strippers, boob jobs, false eyelashes, thong tan lines .. Or anything else men lust after.


Real men gotta have it and gonna get it.

What kind of classy men do you hang around?

Sex is dirty. That's the point .

Men are not into "classy" sex. That's just reality .
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Hmmm maybe it's your reality? Some men are into strippers, cheerleaders, fake overboard "porn styled" everything, others have better taste.

Anonymous wrote:Makes me very grateful for my dw who will occasionally put me over her knee, even though it's not her thing. I love her so much, and feel so close when she does that.

I wonder how common this is. Kind of funny when you think about it.

Your relationship is not done, but you do need to work harder to be kind and meet somewhere in the middle, OP. If you truly cannot handle the cheerleader fantasy, ask him for other ideas in a good-hearted effort to find one that appeals to you. But, for the sake of your relationship, keep an open mind and don't tell him you find any of them repulsive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PS. I suspect you hate strippers, boob jobs, false eyelashes, thong tan lines .. Or anything else men lust after.


Real men gotta have it and gonna get it.

What kind of classy men do you hang around?

Sex is dirty. That's the point .

Men are not into "classy" sex. That's just reality .
.