Anonymous
08/06/2016 23:09
Subject: I don't necessarily want a divorce, but I do want a break. (Not related to the other thread.)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here - to be honest, it's his temper that most makes me want to break away. It has eroded my emotional trust in him, and thus I'm not inclined to lean on him to heal from the infertility wounds. His explosions have done so much damage to my feelings, I'm not sure we can rebuild.
Get out now! Don't have kids with this man! I wish I would have listened to this advice before having a baby. It only gets worse ! Do you want your children to grow up seeing his angry outbursts ?
+1,000,000
Kids will make life harder and make even the most collected people can feel overwhelmed and lose their cool. DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THIS MAN. DO NOT REMAIN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS MAN.
Anonymous
08/04/2016 16:45
Subject: I don't necessarily want a divorce, but I do want a break. (Not related to the other thread.)
I'd try to take a month or two apart (set some ground rules, though, before you split regarding sex or other relationships).
I think it's worth a try to preserve your marriage. Infertility will take a serious toll on even the best marriage.
I was in a lonely marriage for 20+years. The first few were great, but it was a steady decline after that. I've been alone now for 5 years and am so much happier. Yes, I wish I could have a great relationship and partner, but I don't miss the relationship that I had.
If things don't improve for you, please do seriously consider leaving. I also thing that child rearing may be harder even than infidelity (lack of sleep, stress, money worries, parenting, sickness, special needs, etc.). So if your DH is having trouble handling things now, it may be much worse after kids.
I think it's worth a try to preserve your marriage. Infertility will take a serious toll on even the best marriage.
I was in a lonely marriage for 20+years. The first few were great, but it was a steady decline after that. I've been alone now for 5 years and am so much happier. Yes, I wish I could have a great relationship and partner, but I don't miss the relationship that I had.
If things don't improve for you, please do seriously consider leaving. I also thing that child rearing may be harder even than infidelity (lack of sleep, stress, money worries, parenting, sickness, special needs, etc.). So if your DH is having trouble handling things now, it may be much worse after kids.
Anonymous
08/04/2016 12:43
Subject: I don't necessarily want a divorce, but I do want a break. (Not related to the other thread.)
You are not out of line, and as someone who got divorced after 2 years and has been happily remarried for 10, cut your losses. Do not have kids with someone who "explodes".
Anonymous
08/04/2016 12:40
Subject: I don't necessarily want a divorce, but I do want a break. (Not related to the other thread.)
41 and childless, not good.